HE SO JEALOUS

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Registered: 09-05-2003
HE SO JEALOUS
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Mon, 05-23-2005 - 3:18pm
Ive been dating this guy for about 8 months now, my son loves him.. Hes great except for one thing, when he go out with friends and hes drinking and I would dance with someone or talk to other guys he flips.. He is so jealous, I cant take it, i have a lot of guy friends and its becoming embarrassing.. Should I just go w the punches and not dance w guy friends, or let this relationship go?
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Registered: 07-14-2003
In reply to: honeyap
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 3:37pm
My advice. Analyze how you would feel is the situation were reversed. If he was dancing with his female friends. If you wouldn't like it, then why do it? I would also cut back on the alcohol when you are out....as it tends to magnify emotions.
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Registered: 04-08-2003
In reply to: honeyap
Mon, 05-23-2005 - 5:15pm

I agree to the post. It is very important to reverse roles in any relationship. I have done that many times when the green monster would invade me and then I would have to remember "Hey, I have so many guy friends and this isn't fair."

I also would say that usually when their is jealousy involved, it's because the partner doesn't trust the other partner. It could be, because he doesn't trust himself or because he has experienced bad situations in the past or because you give him reason to be jealous.

Thought on this?

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: honeyap
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 12:59pm

<< Should I just ... not dance w guy friends, or let this relationship go?

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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: honeyap
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 2:42pm
This is excellent advice!
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Registered: 04-28-2005
In reply to: honeyap
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 2:46pm

If you two are a serious couple then you shouldn't be dancing with other guys imo. I can understand his jealousy....

If you really care for this guy then stop whatever it is your doing with your male friends. If these guys are really your friends, they'll fall back and understand your in a relationship.

It all depends on how important you really want this relationship to work out with this guy.

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Registered: 03-20-2003
In reply to: honeyap
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 5:21pm

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But caring about someone else does not mean sacrificing yourself, changing the nature of who you are or giving up the things you enjoy!!!

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: honeyap
Wed, 05-25-2005 - 5:56pm

You have received some great advice here. My thoughts are that if he is jealous over everything then that is a bad sign and you should think twice about him.

But if he is only irritated about the club scene then you should do what you can to keep him happy when you are out. I can understand how he would not like you dancing with other guys - how would you feel if he was dancing with other women?

Do you think his drinking is a concern?

Good luck to you - keep us posted!!

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