He was on Match??!!!

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Registered: 05-06-2008
He was on Match??!!!
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Sun, 01-18-2009 - 3:12pm

Because of some things that had happened this week,

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Sun, 01-18-2009 - 4:24pm
That sounds so gut wrenching and my heart goes out to you. I wish I could be there for some girl time to put your mind off things. The only thing I can offer is to try and focus on you and what you want. I don't like that he would so quickly react in that way. These issues are his and you need to be happy in the arrangement also. Good luck taking some time to relax and really use that time to focus on YOU!! Let him miss you as I am sure he will.
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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 4:31pm
I probably shouldn't have gotten in the car and driven all that way.
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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 4:36pm

This has made me feel quite a bit better.

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Sun, 01-18-2009 - 6:08pm
Hmmmmm, BIG hugs girl.
 
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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 6:15pm
I so totally agree with you.
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Registered: 03-30-2008
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 8:04pm

Whoa, didn't see that coming. I am constantly surprised by men's thinking (or lack there of). And if he is already "stressed" about the time he's commiting to you, why was he so quick to jump on Match? Males, they baffle me every time.


I'll be interested to see where this goes...keep us posted. I hope it smooths out soon for your sake. Being in limbo is NO fun.

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 01-18-2009 - 8:12pm
Thanks, I really have to remember to breathe.
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Sun, 01-18-2009 - 10:14pm
Ahhhhh......I would have been just as pissed as you honestly. What was he thinking? He sounds so much like the man I dated it is weird. We only broke up because of distance mainly and he really was a great guy, great Dad, beautiful artist and writer. They are so fickle and spontaneous. And passionate and spontaneous and sometimes petulant when things arent the way they need them to be. It is an artist's mentality and I get it too. So does SYB. I love deep and strong though and am devoted - never wander and neither does SYB. We fell into one another and never looked back. It would have killed me to see him on match 6 months in and it would have ended us for sure. I know he said that he thought you guys were done but that really wasnt clear. And what was clear was the fact that he was faltering as to whether he had time for a relationship. Why go on match then? I know you asked yourself this already but it really does change his integrity in my eyes a bit. Maybe a weak and lonely moment but how many women do you think are on match for something that has no relationship potential. Not very many. So why should he bother? Why not try and work things out with you before he filled out that profile? I worry that this kind of thing could lead to other inconsistencies. The filling of voids when you are in the arts can be a liability in a relationship. He wants contact, attention ( not bad, just true), and he wants to connect on a real level. Many of the finest artists I know practice their art with the tv and the radio on and a newspaper ( or 5) on the desk. They crave stimulation on all levels and in different orders depending on their mood. This is why addiction is so prevalent in artists. I dont mean to scare you because really when artists are well matched with partners in their fields or otherwise they can make beautiful soulmates but they have to have figured out a balance and center to their lives to achieve this IMO. Maybe he is caught in the middle of this right now but I would hate for you to get hurt. I know you care for him but please be careful. His last actions were very impulsive and hurtful and served him only. Dont let the fact that you have a genuine and hearfelt connection to one another eclipse that fact too quickly if ever. I think it is good that you will be busier soon. You dont need this yanking around and it sounds like you have been nothing but patient and giving toward him....
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Sun, 01-18-2009 - 10:53pm

How was your dinner tonight?

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Sun, 01-18-2009 - 11:50pm

I dont know Sweetie. I worry about this .

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