Hello All!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-29-2007
Hello All!
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Thu, 03-29-2007 - 8:54pm

I've been a lurker here for a loooooong time. My divorce was final in 2005, so I'm going on two years of singlehood. I had forgotten what a roller coaster ride dating is.
I have grown so much throughout this time, learning again what I like about myself and what I desire from others.

I started by dating before my divorce, dating ANYONE with a pulse, just to feel desirable again. That didn't last too long.

Liars! Dated some of those. I swear, men must have leashes for their phones, because I know so many that "lose their phone." Seriously, there must be a website for lame excuses that is frequently plenty.

I'm not perfect. I've pushed some away, some good guys, for fear of...I don't know what of. Maybe not really ready at the time for something serious.

I have stories...many horrific dating stories, so much so that my sister states that I should pen a novel. I know we all do, and I think that's what makes misery love company.

Let's just say one of my sister's favorites is a blind date and his duffle bag filled with clothing. That ended with my bil removing the afore mentioned blind date from my abode.

I've done the OLD, the 'setups' from friends and family, as well as ventured on my own. yet, I haven't been serious with anyone since the divorce.

I had recently taken a break from it all. My main dating life lately has been CSI thursdays watching my main man, George Eads. Yum!

My only 'prospect' is a man I met through OLD, that lives hundreds of miles away. No formal meeting, just emails, im's and phone calls. He's not rushing into anything serious with anyone, and does tell me about all the wonderful women that he's encountered that think that they'll change his mind. yeah, so my only 'prospect' is an online friend. The end.

Okay, I think I've babbled enough. I just wanted to introduce myself and say hi. I have a feeling making this first big step and posting after ages of lurking will wake up a posting monster. Just be prepared.

I look forward to chatting with you all.

Shannon

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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: shannmb
Thu, 03-29-2007 - 9:05pm
Welcome! We do hope you post a lot - jump in and share your thoughts, stories, opinions and more. The more the merrier so to speak/type!
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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: shannmb
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 6:05am
Welcome! Look forward to having you here!

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Registered: 02-08-2006
In reply to: shannmb
Fri, 03-30-2007 - 8:17am

Hi there! We LOVE posting monsters!!

It sounds to me like you are in a good place, and it's completely awesome to be in a good place when you're single, and not feel the need to NOT be single anymore.

I know I had to get to that good place before I was ready to think more seirously about dating and men in general. Had I not gone through all the wrong guys, I wouldn't have recoginzed the one who could be right. I also wouldn't be confortable and confident on my own- for the first time ever, I'm taking my kids on a vacation, completely alone- something I never would have had the guts to do without going through a cycle of finding myself.

Welcome officially, glad you decided to come out of lurkerdom!

Moody, happy as a hog in slop right now- alone or with someone


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