Hello from Ribbitty

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Hello from Ribbitty
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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 1:41pm

Hello all!


I started a thread on the Ex's board the other day, and got some great feedback, but I thought I'd formally introduce myself.


I'm a single mom. I've been on my own for over 5 years, divorced for 2. I have two amazing (I know, I know- they're all amazing, aren't they?) kids. Daughter, or Kook as I call her is 16, going on either 30, or 10, depending on the day, and sometimes the hour. Son, or Goof, is 11. I work in a hospital lab and I really like my job. Geez, almost sounds like a dating profile. And yes, I like walks on the beach, camping and dry red wines...


I haven't been dating alot recently. I went through periods where I was a dating machine, but man, that was exhausting! And to be honest, I'm not anywhere near ready for a long-term committed relationship. Seems like any time one of the gents I was seeing pushed for more, I got the heebie-jeebies and ran. You'd think I'd be ready after 5 years, but the heart is one of those weird organs that never does what you expect it to.


I'm currently seeing someone I met on-line. We've been seeing each other for over a year, but before anyone gets excited, I have to tell you that he lives 2 hours away, and he travels alot for his job. And I'm only available on the weekends my kids are with their dad (every other). We see each other 1-2 times a month,

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Fri, 10-10-2008 - 10:10am
RF who used to be CG (LOL) and I had a discussion last night about my daughters extreme changes. He was reading these books and gave me some great insight on a few things, about how to deal with the mood changes. Space is needed and reminding yourself that the mood monster, isn't really your daughter, but something else that comes out of a horror movie and that we have to learn to separate our real kids from the monster that overcomes us. This will help us better deal with the changes.
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Fri, 10-10-2008 - 1:10pm

Lernin, I'm sure you know what I'm talking about then. Kook is also 16. Once she started driving, she seemed to get the idea that she was now a full-fledged adult, and didn't need to inform me about anything she was doing. I had to put a stop to that pretty quick. Taking the car keys away helped. We do have a pretty good relationship. When she gets in one of her moods, I give her space, but I've made it known that I won't tolerate disrespect, and we will talk about whatever issue she has once she calms down. Alot of times she just expects me to know what she's thinking, and other times she complains that I smother her, and oh, the biggie: "Mom, you just don't understand!" You know, I remember using that one on my mom too...


Thanks for the welcome, Ribbitty

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Registered: 10-07-2008
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 1:15pm

Thanks, Soccer!


I've run into a couple of these guys. Seems to me that single men in my age range fall into two general type (or at least the ones I've run into). There's the "I'm single and lovin it and no one's gonna tie me down" type and the "I'm single and I hate it and I need a woman and any one will do" type. I know there are good ones out there, I know, and some of that is my attitude, too. But when they start talking about how great they'll be with my kids, and how I don't need to worry anymore because they'll take care of me, that's when I start putting my walking shoes on.


Hey, maybe I'm the "Single and lovin it and don't tie me down" type gal?


Ribbitty

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Fri, 10-10-2008 - 1:24pm

I consider myself VERY fortunate, as DD and I are friends as well as mother/daughter.

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Fri, 10-10-2008 - 1:40pm

Cat, that's it exactly! And how cool that you can talk to CG, or RF about this stuff!


You know, I do remember those crazy mood swings myself, and feeling like I needed to hit someone, and not knowing why, then getting all weird and emotional and crying for no reason. Of course, my daughter thinks I've always been 45 and her mom, and never experience anything like what she goes through, and even if I did, things have changed soooo much that it doesn't matter anyways.


Ribbitty

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Fri, 10-10-2008 - 2:33pm

I love your comment about your DD thinks you've always been 45 and here mom, and never anything else.

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Sat, 10-11-2008 - 5:40am

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How true Moon!!
My youngest still thinks that way, but my older kids (18 & 20) now realise I was once young & I'm pretty darn sensible! LOL

Tracy

Living in Adelaide, South Australia


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Tracy

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Sat, 10-11-2008 - 3:06pm

Hi Ribbitty and welcome! Glad to have you here on one of the best boards on ivillage.

Laurie

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