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| Sun, 05-14-2006 - 1:44am |
I have been seperated/divorced for 3 1/2 years and I am currently at the end of a nasty custody battle that is finishing the way it started 1 1/2 yr ago, all of my kids with me full time. There father is in another state.
My Problem is that my oldest daughter is 16 and has some problems with depression and since her father lost the custody battle he has now blammed her and his younger sister and has disowned our daughter which has ended her up in the hospital due to her depression. All of this 1 week after a first date with someone that I really like. My daughter is doing good even though she is in the hospital and remains in counseling but I am not sure if I should continue to see this person, I dont think it is fair to continue seeing him without telling him about my daughter (depression issues) because this is a new thing in our lives (the hospital). I did tell him she was in the hospital for issues with her dad but didn't go into detail. He may not call back after that and this may not be an issue with him but what about future dating? {my daughter didn't know about the person I met}
I want to start dating and meeting people but feel like the issues with my teenager will cause people to run the other direction. Should I just sit back and wait until she is off to college to start dating? My younger two are nothing like this and do not have any troubles with me meeting people.
I know I rambled on and thank you for reading this to the end. I hope you can allo give me some advice I will read it all!
Thank you,
Jojo

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WOW, I was not expecting so many good replies. Thank you all!
My dd is home from the hospital and doing well, she is back in school (honor roll student 4.0 GPA) and is seeing her doctors regularly. She will soon be starting a partial patient program to help her deal with everything. I will also be involved with her therapy which will help us all.
My wants and needs have always come second to my kids! The only thing I have held onto in the last few years is school, but even that is fueled by the desire to give my kids a better future.
I want to date because I want to, not to find a father or anything else for my kids. They already have one and even though he is rotton to the core he is still there father and until they find out on there own how bad he is I can only be there for them when ever they need it. Dating is for me not my kids, the few times I have been on a date the kids didn't know anything about it and if they answer my cell and it is a male they just think of it as a friend because that is what I tell them. My biggest fault was that I slipped about my dd being in the hospital and wasn't sure how to handle that because I hate to lie and am not very good at it. I would never go into the details regarding my ugly custody battle either, because even though I have done nothing wrong and have tried my hardest to do what is best by the kids, it is very embarrassing the BS my ex has pulled.
Thank you for letting me vent again. I hope you all have a great day or night depending on when you are reading this! :)
Jojo
whenever I am quizzed about why me and the EX broke up I always respond that he is a great guy, just not a great guy for me :)
You're right, the kids will learn for themselves what their father is all about.
I know my sons have!
~Be~ never vindictive but always inquisitive!
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