Help, I need a pinch hitter!!!
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Help, I need a pinch hitter!!!
| Sat, 07-05-2008 - 10:16pm |
Hello Everyone....
I have been divorced for 5 yrs now and I decided this time I wasn't going to settle and I was going to
take my time. Well, I think it is time.
My son plays on a local

Hi Pontiac, welcome to the board.
Be open with him about your "status" in a nonchalant way- if he's interested, he'll pick up on it and make a move.
Hi Alison,
Thank you for your response...How does this sound?
"If it wasn't for my boys, I would never have a social life"
Or... something commenting on having more free time now that there aren't any more games.
I can think of plenty of conversation starters, but I am not too creative on how to let him know my "status".
Thanks again,
PP-33
PS(How did you get the pretty design with your name on the end of your post?)
If you can think of many conversation starters.... then you are already on your way... Once you start a conversation or even just say "hi", then the rest is pretty much in his court. If he's interested he'll progress the conversation. "Status" will just flow out of the natural conversation (hopefully).... also flash that empty ring finger..lol...
Good luck at the picnic... and most important have fun and make a new friend. Don't worry too far into the future and just enjoy the friendly conversation...
looking forward to the update.
Loonybunny
Well, if you are going to be at a picnic - there are lots of things to talk about - I would tend to make sure you feel great in whatever you are wearing - because a confident happy attitude is a big draw - and to have a big smile for him - and talk about the picnic - no pressure - the food, the weather, your kids - just keep it going - and then if there is mutual attraction he will take care of the rest, trust me! It is very simple.....
WELCOME!!
Yes, any of that will work.
Just keep it casual and picture it like you're talking to an old friend- how would you want to "catch up"?
Thank you all...you have helped me a lot...Even I can handle this...lol:-)
I will keep you posted.
Hmmm....now what to wear??? lol....
The best thing to wear is something you FEEL gorgeous in - and appropriate for weather/activity of course!!
Keep us posted - glad we can help!!
According to my new book wear makeup. Make eye contact. Hold the eye contact. Smile and dont answer with one word answers. Ex: "where are you from?". "I am from Florida". Buzz! Wrong answer. "I am from Florida but I lived in Wash DC for a few years", or "I am from Florida but I only went to college there". Right answers. Add something interesting that he can add to or question more to the question.
Ex. 2. "Its raining hard today". You reply "yeah it is". Wrong reply. "yeah but its good for the plants". Right reply. You left him with something more to converse with....plants.
More from the book....face him full on. Dont turn your head to talk. Turn your whole body. It suggests that you are interested in everything he has to say. Look him in the eye when you talk. Then spend a short moment looking at his face and chest then back to the eye.
Do you know baseball? Rules? Pro teams? Little league teams on your league? If so then you have instant conversation material. Find something you both are interested in and start the conversation. You already know he has boys (subject for conversation) and likes sports (ditto). Get updated on baseball happenings and the local pro team and be ready to bring up something worthy of conversing over.
I wont give you everything the book says. But thats a good start. Its a great book.
Laurie
Hey, great ideas. I'm all for the boning up on the sport in question. Back when my boys played little league my official volunteer job was scorekeeper. I wound up learning every little rule, because over 6 years it all came up eventually.
And to OP, I did meet my BF at the pool, the pool where our kids had swim team practice. Meeting men, and making other friends too, is a great side benefit to your children's activities.
If you have girlfriends, wear what they tell you to wear. Even if you don't agree. God bless my friends or I'd look retarded most of the time.
As for what to do, nothing but enjoy the anticipation! If ya'll struck a spark that was reciprocated, you'll know soon enough :)