Help...First date jitters

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Registered: 08-09-2008
Help...First date jitters
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Sat, 08-09-2008 - 3:07pm
I need some advice quickly. I have been divorced for over a year now and will be having my first actual date tonight. I am very nervous and excited at the same time. I'm 42 have 2 girls 15/17. He is divorced, 45,

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 3:17pm

Well as far as kissing goes, that's a maybe.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Sat, 08-09-2008 - 8:24pm

I have not yet kissed on a first date but I know plenty of folks who have. Topics are usually surface stuff but should be whatever you feel comfortable with. Feel out your guy and how he responds to things. If you feel comfortable about breaking the surface barrier then go ahead. There are plenty of men who can talk about anything to anyone.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 05-13-2005
Sun, 08-10-2008 - 7:17pm
So, how did it go? Come back and tell us!
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Registered: 08-09-2008
Mon, 08-11-2008 - 9:43am
Well, not much to tell. We did not go out. He was to get off work at 5:30, go home, shower, etc. and call me when he was ready. He never called. I called his cell at 7:30 p.m. and it went directly to voice mail. I couldn't even leave a message. Then an hour later, I called, got his voice mail, and left him a message that basically said, I guess plans changed and someone forgot to tell me..thanks! Anyway, my "friends" that introduced us said that they didn't really know him well and it was really just someone hubby knew from work. "Creep" didn't work for same company, but contract work at same location.
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Registered: 02-15-2008
Mon, 08-11-2008 - 2:36pm

(((( hugs )))))

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Mon, 08-11-2008 - 3:33pm

Oh No!!!


Well, unless he calls you with a HUGE apology and legitimate reason why he didn't make it- ie. hit by a bus and in the hospital for 3 days... then NEXT!


The thing about dating is that people can seem good and change in an instant; you think there's a connection and the other person does not.


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Registered: 05-13-2005
Mon, 08-11-2008 - 3:46pm

"He never called."

THAT does stink and yes it is disappointing. But something in his mind prevented his call - he is not sure - or can't remember. But WHATEVER "IT" is - it doesn't matter - he just doesn't pass the test to be date worthy for you - so don't dwell - move on - dating is a long process where a lot of stuff has to line up on both sides.

Hopefully you are enthused by your excitement to have a date and you put this to good use to seek more - it is a numbers game - you have to date a lot of people to find one.

HUGS - and good luck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-09-2008
Mon, 08-11-2008 - 11:46pm

Coming home this evening and reading these posts made me feel pretty good, actually. You all had a lot of great points. First and foremost, the prospect of dating. I am pretty excited about the idea.

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Registered: 10-01-2007
Tue, 08-12-2008 - 8:50am

Just wanted to chime in late and say welcome" and good for you for not letting the jerk get you down :-) Last Summer I was in the same place as you and went on my first date in about 13 yes (gasp!).

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Tue, 08-12-2008 - 11:53am

Welcome to Dating 101. What a JERK. Glad you didnt even waste a

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