Here I go......

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Registered: 06-14-2007
Here I go......
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Fri, 07-06-2007 - 12:35am
Well my out of state guy said it would be two weeks before he could get back up here. Okay. He has started to call me twice a day. Anyway. I have a date Sat. with one of my internet bf's. I call them internet bf's. There are a couple of guys I have been talking to on IM for 6 months to three years. I rarely meet the guys I meet OLD but IM some of them alot. Keeps me entertained while I'm at home with my kids or better yet while I'm at home and my kids are at their friends houses. One of them invited me to dinner on Sat and it sounds like fun. I want to go out to dinner. I'm excited I have a real date. Still not sure if I'm doing the right thing here but what can dinner hurt, Right? At least I've got something to wear my new clothes to. Yeah. I might have a date Friday night too but that will depend on how my work night goes. I might be too tired. Off to dating again..... Should I tell the guy from out of state that I'm dating other people? Or is this a good if he doesn't ask I don't have to tell thing. There has been no mention of being exclusive or anything. What to do?
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Registered: 04-08-2003
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 9:45am

Definitely don't sit at home waiting for the long distance thing to pan out. He might not be home all the time either. I've done the long distance thing soooo often and you will bite yourself in the rear if you start passing up dates around the area. Enjoy yourself and just see what happens with the long distance guy, but keep your options open closer to home. Let us know how things went.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 11:30am
Don't ask...don't tell!! If you and the long distance guy have not discussed this then don't go there. Based on what you have said before, I see no reason for you to wait on him never mind turn down dates from nice local people who could become a better prospect for YOU! Glad to hear you have the opportunity to get out there - keep us posted!
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Registered: 02-08-2006
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 6:08pm

There's been no mention of exclusivity, but is it implied? How would you feel if you found out when he was home he was dating others without telling you? Would you want to know or is it better for you not to?

I think honesty is always key, but if he doesn't ask and it is just a simple dinner, there's no harm in not telling. Obviously if it progresses beyond a dinner, I'd advise for full disclosure.

hope this helps!

Moody, who would probably not tell at this stage


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Registered: 10-30-2004
Fri, 07-06-2007 - 6:27pm
I wouldn't tell either. I am against long distance relationships and have already told my BF of one year that if he has to take a job an hour away our relationship will be indefinately on hold because I can't do it.