Here's the update to my weekend!

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Here's the update to my weekend!
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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 12:08am

Ok, I'm really frustrated. Do we have an icon for that?


Friday night I went to the night club meetup and it just wasn't what I was into anymore. I was really looking forward to dancing, etc., but it turned out the place we wanted to go to was somehow messed up and it was supposed to be a free entrance fee and then it wasn't. I don't know what the issue was, but they screwed it up and sixty people were standing outside until I suggested another place. It was a great place and all, but I guess I realized I'm just not a night club person anymore. AND I felt really old, although everyone who was with me was my age or older. ANYWAY, kinda of boo hoo.


Soooooo heard from the Hottie guy on Saturday morning and we decided to meet at 6 o'clock. I almost wanted to cancel because I really wanted to stay home with the kids and I had a feeling it would have been best, BUT again, I didn't listen to my gut instinct (I had a gut feeling on Friday night too and didn't listen). So I drive to see him and LADIES.... the man is HOT, HOT, HOT, HOT! I don't think I've seen such an awesome looker yet here in the Carolinas. Well, it's been a rarity. We seemed to have instant chemical click. He had already ordered himself a drink and was waiting on me. Now remember, it's six o'clock. We started talking and it seemed to flow pretty well. We had the same interests and everything. I just don't want to get all into the whole thing, BUT I wanted to pay a long time ago because he seemed SOOO into himself. Which was fine, because he was hot, he was pretty well rounded in conversation and uptodate on topics, etc etc. BUT, he just seemed to be angry at the world somehow. He made this nasty comments all the time about how other people lie, lie, lie to him and he hates liars, etc etc. It was wierd. OK, so get this, I didn't know how to end it and so it was after midnight. He never thought to ask about food or anything and the man had about 16 Jack and Cokes. I mentioned this and wondered if he was ok to drive home. He said he was perfectly in order and you know what? He acted like it. He didn't slur, he acted the same sober self as when I met him and then I wondered how many he had all day. He also proceeded to tell me that the same night that he cancelled our date, he had a house party. He said, he miraculously felt better and decided to invite friends over. OKKKKKKKKK!! DIDN'T I tell you ladies, he was probably lying??????? Here, the guy that hates liars, lied to me. GEESH. I pointed that out, but he said, he wasn't feeling better, until a few hours later. OK, whatever....... I finally got home late when he sends me a text with: sweet dreams. I said thanks and left it to that.


Haven't heard from him since, but not concerned. For the above OBVIOUS reasons....


Remember the guy that I said was so slow on asking me out? Well, he ended up calling and saying he really wanted to go out with me, etc. etc. Wanted to also know if we didn't want to meet up last minute afterall and I said no, I made my plans. So he again proceeded to tell me how great I was, etc etc and he couldn't wait for us to go out and that he had a date for Saturday but not really interested, because he thought I had a great sense of humor. Ok.... whatever.


Heard back from him today. He sent me a joke on match.com. That's it. Then I noticed his profile was no longer on the site so I responded by saying I noticed he wasn't showing himself online anymore and if

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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 5:53am

Oh dear. Sounds like the "pile" got you a bit disappointed. But I think you are being good picky and just have to keep sorting. No, I would not want a 15 jack and coker, an idiot who sends jokes on match from a hidden profile or an obese guy with a food addiction either. And I don't like the nightclub scene either - there is just something not fun about the smell of smoke and alcohol, the crazy people and staying out late.

But the widow does sound very nice so far. I hope you can brush all that off and give him a fresh start. At the very least it is a dating story for us.

I love reading all of the dating stories. We can all realize that it is them and not us - hehehe (sorry Mark). The thing is that we are all different in this world and everyone has a match - but the challenge is on all of us to find that match.

Happy sifting! I think you just need a few days of work to calm you down!! Love the new pic.

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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 7:43am

The original night club was supposed to be smoke free, etc. but because we couldn't get in, we had to go to another one that was smoke filled. I quit smoking back in October, so I didn't like it one bit because it gave me a headache. Drinking (even half a glass of wine)

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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 12:56pm

Hey Cat-


Well that is disappointing about the Hottie. Holy cow- 15 drinks? The guy has a tolerance and huge red flag. Awesome that you saw through them But too bad- he sounded hot. And onaother thing- the negative talking is such a turn OFF. I can't stand that when a guy goes on an on about negative nasty things in life. Life is too short

~Pacific~
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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 1:04pm
Nope, not yet. Guess we'll see.
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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 2:07pm
Wow..I so get ya..yesterday I was on the fireball kick and pretty much mad with the world and life in general. Today I am alot better.I am still checking my EH and have found a
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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 2:09pm

It sounds like you are really frustrated and disappointed from your weekend experiences myprecious.

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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 2:10pm
I'm trying not to remain negative, but when you get so many online jerks, it tends to be hard.
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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 2:54pm

Like I mentioned in another post: communication is very important to me, so when poeple feel like they have to lie, ghost, do dumb and inconsiderate things, it is very frustrating for me to be positive.


And I KNOW I have to let it not phase me, but that is much easier said then done. Because as I said, for me NOT to react, I would have to get a lobotomy. I have to very reactive parents and therefore it's not easy for me to act like it doesn't matter. It doesn't mean that I was SOOO into that person, it simply means I would like some common courtesy and to be respectively treated.


It makes me feel like Fried Green Tomatoes, where she stops being nice and taking it all. I used to be so nice about everything. I never used to say a word, but in the last two years, I feel very TOWANDA! I am tired of being treated disrespectfully.


Best scene: She waits at an overcrowed parking lot for about 5 minutes for this guy to get into the car and leave. These teenagers cut her off from the other direction taking this womans parking spot and flick her off in the process. She ends up ramming their car over and over and over again yelling TOWANDA!!


That is how I'm starting to feel. Like the Towanda in me exploding. That guy might think I was pyschotic and needing help for not

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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 3:14pm

TOWANDA....


I love it!


We could all benefit from letting our inner Towanda out now and then. I know how good that feels! It's theraputic! I don't blame you in the least..I say let TOWANDA out to handle rude guy online. Why the heck not?


Pacific...feeling a bit Towanda myself today

~Pacific~
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Tue, 03-04-2008 - 3:44pm

TOWANDA! Yes indeed..its empowering...


I can so get off on that! I would just have to be careful so they didnt put my butt in jail!

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