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| Tue, 03-04-2008 - 12:08am |
Ok, I'm really frustrated. Do we have an icon for that?
Friday night I went to the night club meetup and it just wasn't what I was into anymore. I was really looking forward to dancing, etc., but it turned out the place we wanted to go to was somehow messed up and it was supposed to be a free entrance fee and then it wasn't. I don't know what the issue was, but they screwed it up and sixty people were standing outside until I suggested another place. It was a great place and all, but I guess I realized I'm just not a night club person anymore. AND I felt really old, although everyone who was with me was my age or older. ANYWAY, kinda of boo hoo.
Soooooo heard from the Hottie guy on Saturday morning and we decided to meet at 6 o'clock. I almost wanted to cancel because I really wanted to stay home with the kids and I had a feeling it would have been best, BUT again, I didn't listen to my gut instinct (I had a gut feeling on Friday night too and didn't listen). So I drive to see him and LADIES.... the man is HOT, HOT, HOT, HOT! I don't think I've seen such an awesome looker yet here in the Carolinas. Well, it's been a rarity. We seemed to have instant chemical click. He had already ordered himself a drink and was waiting on me. Now remember, it's six o'clock. We started talking and it seemed to flow pretty well. We had the same interests and everything. I just don't want to get all into the whole thing, BUT I wanted to pay a long time ago because he seemed SOOO into himself. Which was fine, because he was hot, he was pretty well rounded in conversation and uptodate on topics, etc etc. BUT, he just seemed to be angry at the world somehow. He made this nasty comments all the time about how other people lie, lie, lie to him and he hates liars, etc etc. It was wierd. OK, so get this, I didn't know how to end it and so it was after midnight. He never thought to ask about food or anything and the man had about 16 Jack and Cokes. I mentioned this and wondered if he was ok to drive home. He said he was perfectly in order and you know what? He acted like it. He didn't slur, he acted the same sober self as when I met him and then I wondered how many he had all day. He also proceeded to tell me that the same night that he cancelled our date, he had a house party. He said, he miraculously felt better and decided to invite friends over. OKKKKKKKKK!! DIDN'T I tell you ladies, he was probably lying??????? Here, the guy that hates liars, lied to me. GEESH. I pointed that out, but he said, he wasn't feeling better, until a few hours later. OK, whatever....... I finally got home late when he sends me a text with: sweet dreams. I said thanks and left it to that.
Haven't heard from him since, but not concerned. For the above OBVIOUS reasons....
Remember the guy that I said was so slow on asking me out? Well, he ended up calling and saying he really wanted to go out with me, etc. etc. Wanted to also know if we didn't want to meet up last minute afterall and I said no, I made my plans. So he again proceeded to tell me how great I was, etc etc and he couldn't wait for us to go out and that he had a date for Saturday but not really interested, because he thought I had a great sense of humor. Ok.... whatever.
Heard back from him today. He sent me a joke on match.com. That's it. Then I noticed his profile was no longer on the site so I responded by saying I noticed he wasn't showing himself online anymore and if

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That is a funny visual. TOWANDA!!
"And I KNOW I have to let it not phase me, but that is much easier said then done." I agree. One thing I read that I try to remember is that the anger usually affects the person who is angry - they carry the intense emotion and anger and are disturbed by it while the person who made them that way is unaffected - in other words it bothers you not them. And it is really up to you to let it bother you - or not.
I think that you are very straightforward and good at speaking your mind and following through and getting feedback. I bet that is why you are so good at your job. But you probably expect others to do the same - but they do not.
Perhaps the guy who didn't say anything thought he was being nice by not saying anything bad or causing a hassle - because I know a lot of people who don't call if they don't have the answer you want. And when I understand it that way I don't get frustrated and take it personally or get upset because I understand that they are different from me. Everyone has different ways of thinking and doing things.
Maybe you should find a way to write what you like in a positive way in your profile so you can hopefully find someone who is the same? I do come across guys who are like that and write that - will try to copy and paste the next time if I remember - but someone who is the same with speaking their mind and communicating well would appreciate you and give you that back.
Ok, here is my profile.. anyone care to add, delete or give feedback. I really want to start attracting better men and not such jerks.
I have lived in North Carolina for over 2 years now and have really grown to love the beach and the mountains and the hospitality of the people. After spending time in Europe for my career, I am happy to be back in the good ole USA and plant some roots and am doing well with my job.
A few of the things I enjoy now are fixing and tinkering with things, fishing, camping, road trips, love golf (but not perfect at it) and reading a good book. I enjoy quiet evenings, but also a night on the town or just people watching. I love playing soccer and volleyball. But most of all, I enjoy body boarding in Wilmington, which I do almost every weekend from spring until autumn. The first thing people mention when they see me is that I have an infectious smile and am full of energy.
I am a fun loving woman; I love life and enjoy waking up everyday to a new adventure. I love to cook, try new and fun things, play with my kids, walk my dog, snuggle on the couch and watch movies. My children do a great job bringing joy into my life, but I know I would like to add that special someone that compliments my life as I do his. I do like to live my life by the golden rule and really like to have good communication and good manners – I guess you could say I am old fashioned that way and would love to find someone who feels the same way.
NOTES to Cat:
1) I would leave out all of the negative scary stuff - because you can screen and delete. Putting that stuff in there, in my opinion, scares away the good people who will think you attract those types or have had a lot of drama. And it doesn't prevent the ones with the problems from contacting you because they never think they have a problem.
2) Do you have good pix?
oooooooooooooooo, I LOVE HOW YOU CHANGED THAT UP!!
I do have a few pretty pictures that I had recently at a meetup. One of them is the one attached to this board.
I haven't met anyone otherwise to take pictures me, but attached is another recent one:
I am glad you like it - it is always easier to edit someone else's but not my own. And you do have a lot of fun interests - I wanted those to shine. I bet a golfer would like to find a player - I always read a lot of profiles of men who love golf - and I cannot play to save my soul. Am never good with anything that requires a ball!!
Those are good pix and you are pretty with a great smile and sparkly eyes - it really shows how fun and energetic you are - but I think you can do better still - can you find someone to take some for you? You mention so many nice things about the outdoors - what do you think about getting a little dressed up and also casual and having them taken outside? Natural sunlight always has a beautiful effect on the face. You just have to be careful not to get harsh shadows. If the sun is in the morning or evening and can shine right on you - that is best for pix.
I was also thinking if you work in a hotel if you could have some in the lobby - that is elegant. Tell everyone you are doing stuff for your daughter's school project!! LOL!!
I don't work in a hotel. I work from home as an event planner, but I get your idea. I have to see if I can get someone to take some real nice outdoor pictures. I just get embarrassed to ask and my kids are no help. Alex is always a pain when it comes to stuff like that.
But thank you so much for the feedback.
Okay - well - it is not like it has to be done right this minute. I bet you will be somewhere where someone can take one - maybe at a meetup group or the beach or playing golf or just outdoors in a park? You can say you need it for a school project or something. And no - kids are never patient with pix!
The funny thing is that my DS has a total knack for taking good pix of me when we are on vacation. But to ask him to stop playing and do that now? No way!! LOL!
I would leave out all of the negative scary stuff - because you can screen and delete. Putting that stuff in there, in my opinion, scares away the good people who will think you attract those types or have had a lot of drama. And it doesn't prevent the ones with the problems from contacting you because they never think they have a problem.
Well I don't even OLD but I like this point! Good job at doctoring up Cats profile. I love it!
Cat- looks good to me. It shows your love for life and energy! Great pics and I agree with Judy- wonderful sparkly smile!!
Aw Cat... I'm sorry you are having so much frustration. I don't know what to tell you, only that I wish you peace. That kind of peace that comforts you, no matter what ANYONE else is doing. Even if they are being rude or aggravating or being a jerk... I wish you that peace that lets you NOT get bothered by it all.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I know you are having trouble keeping hope alive but if it helps any, I have been somewhere similar to where you are and things have really worked out. It happened very random but it DID happen. Keep your chin up and keep that lovely smile of yours on your face!!
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