Here's your sign............SMACK!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Here's your sign............SMACK!!!
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Mon, 11-10-2008 - 11:12pm

Yep, ladies I didn't just get handed the sign I got the sign slapped upside my head.....HARD!!!


I personally get the dumba$$ of the week award.

 

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Mon, 11-10-2008 - 11:40pm
I think its too soon to tell if this is a blow off, or if something is really going on.

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 1:18am
I agree. Give it a day or two. (((HUGS)))
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 8:02am

Youre not a dumbass and please dont call yourself it!!!! Ok now that thats been said....This stuff happens to all of us. Its part of the game. Which is why a lot of us hate the game. I am sorry it happened to you. But pick up the pieces and move on. I think this happens to women a lot because we are so open, accepting and we look for the good in people. Sometimes to a fault.

It happened to me with a guy I was dating and really liked. I thought things were going well for us but he suddenly dumped me for a Harley riding younger woman who slept with him sooner than I did. But I got the satisfaction of seeing that relationship fall apart and him start emailing me again. I didnt take him up on anything but it was nice to see anyhow.

Better you realized this now instead of many months later.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 05-06-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 8:09am

OK, I may get some flack here, but...

I really HATE it when guys do this disappearing thing and don't tell you what is going on. Are they expecting you to wait around for them while they do whatever? Probably. Is it really that hard to say, "I'm sick" and respond appropriately if someone tries to contact you? Unless I am DYING, I can manage to make contact with someone else. If we are to the point with a guy that we are jumping their bones, we deserve some sort of contact.

Some men CAN do this. I just met one who has now managed to call every time he said he would. When he canceled our first meeting because he was sick, he managed to call, and he REALLY sounded sick. But he kept in touch via email until we were able to meet. It CAN be done.

The last guy I was seeing did the "I'm sick" thing and I never saw him again...He sure as hell didn't die.

And, I'm sorry, but he's having "issues"? Can we clarify? You don't need major details, but something more specific sounds like less of a blow-off.

I'm tired of Mars/Venus stuff being used as an excuse for bad behavior. Yes, men and women are different. But with a level of maturity and intelligence, you can see what the differences are, work with them, and it's all good. But if you take the "cave time" or "guys don't talk" stuff literally, a lot of guys use that as an excuse to play us.

Sorry about the rant. I am just tired of all these nice women being taken advantage of.

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 9:31am

LC, I'm glad you posted this because you're right - share the good with the bad.


But, I'm with Rlch on this one - give it a day or two before jumping to any conclusions.

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Registered: 09-26-2005
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 10:25am

Don't feel bad, I think we've all BTDT. Yes, you should post all, that's what we are here for !


Maybe you will hear from him, just remember they are his issues and have nothing to do with you, so don't second guess yourself, trust your instincts, in the grand sceme of things, there's really not much else you can do!


Whatever you do, don't beat yourself up about it! It was not your fault!


The T Girl
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Registered: 10-01-2007
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 11:27am

I agree - give it some time.

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Registered: 07-15-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 11:32am

Hey girl...any update?

JH


This is the true joy in life, the being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as a mighty one; the being thoroughly worn out before you are thrown on the scrap heap; the being a force of Nature instead of a feverish selfish little clod of ailments and grievances complaining that the world will not devote itself to making you happy.


JH

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Registered: 02-15-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 11:40am

Just a thought here, Could his nerves be getting the best of him??

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Tue, 11-11-2008 - 11:54am

*standing up applauding*


I totally agree.

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