He's Afraid to Meet my Kids
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He's Afraid to Meet my Kids
| Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:39am |
At least I think he is. And my kids arent particularly scary either. RG wont do anything with me that involves my kids. He hasnt said he wont but he avoids it. I have asked hundreds of times and he says he will but when the time comes he always has an excuse or cant be contacted. He's good at avoidance.
So I wonder, why doesnt common sense get the better of me? Why is it I keep hanging on to him and hoping something will come of it?
Laurie

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OK- I should know this, but how long has RG been in the picture?
If its less than 4 months, i think he shouldnt be meeting them anyway. If its 4-8 months, I agree with him if he is hesitant. If its more than that, he's avoiding them.
Over a year and a half. He has met them for a minute or two. But avoids anything more. He is good at avoidance. I have him down to a T and I know when he's avoiding.
Laurie
Because he is fun, good looking, we get along really well and I feel this chemistry thing when I am with him. Our goals are different but its hard to leave someone like that. I did it once and it hurt.
Honey, I know you're holding on to hope that RG will change, but really, Laurie, he's a dyed in the wool bachelor who likes it that way.
The only advice I can give is what *I* think I would do in your position. Since its only what I *think* I'd do, because I haven't had this experience before. But I would totally corner him with a "you've been avoiding meeting my kids, I'm in this for the long haul. I adore you, enjoy my time with you immensley, but I'm looking for someone to add TO my life, and I'm a package deal. If blending with my family isn't an interest to you, and only dating *me* by myself interests you, I have to end this now. I can't keep my life on hold when this isn't what I'm ultimately wanting for me or my kids."
But I agree, after 18 mths and still not wanting to do stuff involving your kids, it sounds like he enjoys you very much but has no interest in your family. ((((HUGS))))
I know. I know. Thing is its so hard to say goodbye to such a wonderful friendship and handsome man. I have tried to make him a friend and not a love interest several times. But when I am with him my heart just swoons and I start thinking 'what if'....
Laurie
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