He's Afraid to Meet my Kids

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Registered: 03-19-2008
He's Afraid to Meet my Kids
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Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:39am

At least I think he is. And my kids arent particularly scary either. RG wont do anything with me that involves my kids. He hasnt said he wont but he avoids it. I have asked hundreds of times and he says he will but when the time comes he always has an excuse or cant be contacted. He's good at avoidance.


So I wonder, why doesnt common sense get the better of me? Why is it I keep hanging on to him and hoping something will come of it?


Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 02-20-2007
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 2:22pm

The question is does he only think of you as a friend with benefits.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 3:00pm

Laura..


You've received some great advice already from everyone but I'll throw in my 2 cents.


I guess that what would make the break easier if this was me would be to think of your kids perspective. RG has made is CLEAR that he is

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 4:26pm

I'm sorry?


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Thu, 08-28-2008 - 6:00pm
I have been in exactly this same position.
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Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:01pm
SMACK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:08pm

Am I a confusing mess or what?! I downgraded him to friend two weeks or so ago. But everytime I am with him the old feelings resurface. Yes I am still seeing EMT and he is sweet and fun and everything RG is not but the chemistry is just not there like it is with RG.

Laurie

anonymous
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Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:18pm

Oh sorry. I'll update you. Its not a FWB, although at times I wish it were. I have yet to sleep with him. He has religious beliefs that get in the way. Hence the name RG, Religious Guy. Its been an on again off again exclusive relationship/friendship that never goes further than 'more than friends, less than a couple' phase.

I do date others. I met a wonderful, friendly, fun EMT who is active and is everything RG is not including not as handsome. But whenever I am with him or anyone else for that matter, I think of RG and how much I would like to be with RG.

So to summarize, I want to move on. I know what I want but my heart is just not in it right now. I got too involved with RG thinking that someday it would be more. He even says someday it might be more. So I listened and believed and hoped and here I sit more than a year later in the same dang boat I was in last year.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:19pm

Ouch. Thanks I needed that.

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:24pm

Cool. Thanks for your reply. I appreciate the input from everyone especially from people who have been there done that. I have this feeling that as soon as I move on RG will do the same thing because everytime I have pulled back he has held on tight. Which makes it more difficult to pull back. ARGHHHHHH

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 10-07-2005
Thu, 08-28-2008 - 8:28pm

Simple solution: stop spending time with him.

You can't get over him if you continue to see him, it's counterproductive.

The boy

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