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Sun, 04-30-2006 - 6:33pm

Hi am I am single mother of 2 (11,6) and I am newly single and am not sure how to go about dating again.

After working all day and taking care of my kids, where would I ever meet a man? The only other places that I frequent are the gym and the grocery store! I've though about online dating services but am wary....my ex of course has not had a hard time finding anyone of course!

Any tips? I feel so foolish hitting on a man in the produce aisle with my kids staring at us!!!!

Jamie

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Registered: 02-08-2006
In reply to: jelleelle
Sun, 04-30-2006 - 7:59pm

Hi, Jamie, and welcome to out board! Do you spend any time without your kids? Maybe hang out with your friends? You didn't say how long you've been single, but I know firsthand how hard it can be to make time for yourself without the kids.

As hard as that can be, you need to do it. Even if you aren't dating, you need to take time for yourself.

That being said, I personally am doing the online dating thing. Others on this board are meeting people through mutual interests, which I'm also open to (music, working out, etc) and my friends are totally fixing me up. But I'm shameless in my pursuit of a date, and not above asking others for help.

I date for fun right now, though, and even though I eventually want to meet Mr Right, I'm completely happy meeting lots of Mr Right Nows.

Each of us is different, though, and what works for me won't necessarily work for you. I'm sure others will have some great ideas too.

Whatever you do, please feel free to stick around and post with us!


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Registered: 10-07-2005
In reply to: jelleelle
Sun, 04-30-2006 - 9:48pm

Hi Jamie,

Welcome to the board.

While you don't have to hit on every guy you meet, a good starting point is striking up conversations with strangers every where you go. This will make you feel more comfortable talking to people, and will help that shy guy checking you out strike up the nerve to talk to you! No guy wants to approach a girl that he thinks won't talk to him.

That said, how often do you have time just for yourself?




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Registered: 06-29-2005
In reply to: jelleelle
Mon, 05-01-2006 - 8:47am
Jamie...first off, welcome to the board. I have no advice for you. I met my Mike at my bowling alley...but you should definately get some time to yourself to go out. I hope you stick around. The women here are really helpful






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Registered: 10-19-2003
In reply to: jelleelle
Mon, 05-01-2006 - 9:06am
Welcome to the board Jamie!Being the bread winner and Mom is tough, I know, I've done it for years. But you need time for yourself too!
Online dating is as safe as you make it and you might make a few new friends that may have single friends that you do like and well, I'm running on here but the point is, what have you got to lose?
Enjoy!
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: jelleelle
Mon, 05-01-2006 - 10:45am

HI Jaime,

Welcome to our board. I think we are all in the same boat. It is hard enough to be the main bread winner and take care of kids and ourselves, never to mention having to get out and be social so you meet other people and find a date.

The others here have given you great ideas - I hope you stay and participate in our discussions and give your opinion in our threads.

I think that if you try to take a little time for yourself and meet new people you will feel like you are getting out there. Moodygreeneyes shows how she is exploring a lot of avenues and that is what you have to do.

If you can do all you can to feel good about yourself it seems that you just have an easier way of attracting the right person - you go through your day with a sparkle in your eyes and a spring in your step.

HUGS!!

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