Hey I'm making it past the 2nd date!

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Hey I'm making it past the 2nd date!
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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 2:12pm

I have been feeling off during the last month and I attribute that to my tinnitus-ear ringing and the eHarmony revolving door of one time dates plus still feeling skittish about work.


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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 4:53pm

I think the EH matches thing might be slow because of vacations and kids out of school? Just a thought. You went from thundering at a maddening pace with good volume down to something a tad higher than most of us are used to!! LOL!!

What luck for the ringing in the ears thing - now that you want to be dating and listening to music. I hope it goes away soon!! That must be such a pain! And hopefully your boss and you are getting along better as well.

This new one sounds quite nice for you - I would vote one of the best you have described so far and I am praying the attraction grows for you both. And maybe you keeping the EH sub will help you go at a pace she likes - the only reason I say that is because you often say they complain about your pace - not that I think your pace is too strong - I know you know what you want and you have to find that. But I sort of chuckled when I read you will keep your subscription!! I said - GOOD! LOL!!

I must say your date sounds like so much fun with the Mexican food and the music and now plans for drumming. You are very fun for your age - or for any age!!

"I like her because she lives life consciously, down-to-earth and grounded, accepting and caring, sensible, honest, and direct. We can talk about things like fears and sex which are areas that can send either party running to the hills. She does drumming which is an interest of mine and bikes as well. All “non-sexy” things but huge in my book."

GOOD!! Keep us posted!

I think it has been enlightening to hear how many dates and communications you have had - because it shows us what our prospects are probably doing. It seems that since the man really holds the driving wheel that he has to do the asking pretty much - and he has a lot to ask - but it is a maddening prospect to find one you like who likes you as much. And so this teaches patience and proper expectations and for us to be all we can be in our "marketplace" so to speak.

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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 5:42pm

I am hopeful on Cute Widow.

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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 5:53pm

OOOOH - she has a name - "Cute Widow"

hahahaha!!

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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 6:21pm

I talked to her about how I come across as "intense" to my dates and hence scaring them away.

~Pacific~
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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 12:14pm

OK moving fast and furious here with Cute Widow.

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 12:24pm

I'm happy to hear about Cute Widow and her enthusiam towards you. It sounds like a good weekend upcoming.


I think I can understand her not feeling great that you are still looking. But on the other hand you and her have not seen each other enough to say you are exclusive just yet right? How many dates so far? I'm not really one to talk though- BE and I were exclusive after two weeks of dating. But thought is that you could explore these last couple of matches, and then see where things are. After that (if they are dead ends) then put eH to rest for a while and explore with CW exclusively?


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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 12:36pm

My honest initial reaction is WHOA NILLY! TMTFTS!

"OK moving fast and furious here with Cute Widow. We talked and she seems to be of like mind where if you think there is a match then dive in with both feet. I am a bit taken aback with this similar attitude from a woman. She has a kid-free weekend so I arranged to see my kiddos another day. She also said her 13 yr old will be at her house so offered to stay over my place with my roommate and dog (!!!).

I told her since my eHaromony responses and matches has ground to a halt then maybe the Universe is telling me that this is the relationship I need to focus on. We have talked about me looking for "the next best thing" and how that does not sit well with her. I don't like it either. So ironically as soon as we made the plans to get together Friday and Saturday night I get a couple of responses on eH."

I have a feeling you won't like her at the end of the weekend! I think just because she has a kid free weekend she shouldn't spend the whole weekend with you. OMG. I don't know - please don't be mad at me for being honest - but this is honest.

I just think that is a lot of time all of a sudden to spend with someone you don't know all that well and that it might smother you?

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 12:56pm

TMTFTS? "Too Much.

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 12:59pm

Smother me?

~Pacific~
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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 1:09pm
OMG... oh YEAH!

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