Hey I'm making it past the 2nd date!

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Hey I'm making it past the 2nd date!
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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 2:12pm

I have been feeling off during the last month and I attribute that to my tinnitus-ear ringing and the eHarmony revolving door of one time dates plus still feeling skittish about work.


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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 12:20am

Mark, you can't make a baby in a month even if you have 9 women working on it.


I agree with Shrimps.

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 1:28am

Heyyy no worries mon (as I say in my best Jamaican accent). We are doing this thing called creating a relationship in a very conscious way and that is what I like about her. I am no hurry for sex aka fluid exchanges or for becoming a couple. I am taking her lead on doing the weekend together thing.

So I'm not rushing to create a baby (thank GOD) and neither is she. Both of us are not in a hurry, we just feel comfortable, safe, and generally OK about this so far. We talked more about it tonight (went with her to an African drumming class). I am pretty intuitive and discerning and it seems so is she.

If it does not work out then sooner the better. If it does then we move on. I firmly believe that it does take about a year to know if a relationship has "legs." My woman friend says it takes four seasons.

Thanks again,
Mark

We're fools whether we dance or not, so we might as well dance. ~Japanese Proverb




Edited 6/25/2008 1:35 am ET by mhash
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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 9:54am
I think I will add the rule it takes about a year and/or four seasons to see if the relationship has legs to my 6 month probation rule! LOL! I can't wait to hear how your weekend goes!
Stephanie
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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 9:55am




Mark...sending happy thoughts for your weekend...umm some essentials to...M

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 10:13am

Four seasons is interesting - that is a good thought.

The only thing I can think of to add is I think you have to take the time to get to know someone AND to ADAPT - the adaptation is an important part of the process - it allows for thought and understanding and empathy for the other person. Otherwise too much new input from someone new all at once can tend to make you want to go on overload.

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 11:06am

I Love these photo's!

Rosecolouredspecs
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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 12:11pm

Delurking to say I agree--that's definitely been my experience.

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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 12:33pm
OMG, M you crack me UP!!!!!
~Pacific~
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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 12:37pm

She does drumming which is an interest of mine and bikes as well.

~Pacific~
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Wed, 06-25-2008 - 12:46pm

Thanks Sheri.