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Registered: 07-02-2008
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Thu, 10-09-2008 - 9:54pm
Hi ladies, I've only posted in the surviving divorce and separation boards but have read a few of your posts and I must say you have not only provided comic relief but also hope for when I am ready to start dating again. How long did everyone wait until they started dating and do I really have to find a guy in bar?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2008
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Thu, 10-09-2008 - 10:29pm

I waited a year. But I had to move, get a new job and get the kids settled before I thought I could even DEAL with another guy. I've dated a few, had a few month fling with one, had a nutty date on Tuesday that I shared with the gals here.

I do OLD at this point because I don't go to bars alone, I work with all women, everyone I know is married or the only 40 something single guys they know have issues. My mother keeps trying to find millionaires for me to meet, but after Tuesday's date, she may want to change her tune!

It ain't perfect by all means, but it's a start. Kind of gets me back in the game, but on my terms, and I don't have to look good when I am approaching someone for the first time...well, at least until you meet them!

Good luck with your quest. There is hope. And the ladies here will give you hugs and laughs along the way.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2008
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 12:06am

Hi Mandi


Welcome to the board.

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Registered: 05-29-2003
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 9:25am

I waited for a little over a year before dating.


You certainly

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Registered: 03-15-2004
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 10:43am

WELCOME!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 07-02-2008
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 11:41am
Thanks ladies! I met my STBX is bar and that didn't turn out so great:)
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Registered: 09-12-2008
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 12:07pm

I don't think you can put a time on it for everyone!

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-15-2008
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 12:16pm

Welcome to the board!

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-07-2008
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 12:58pm

Hi Mandi!


I'll echo the advice some of the other wise people here have given you. The timeframe is really whatever you are comfortable with. I know I waited 2 years after my Ex moved out to start dating. The kids and I spent alot of time healing, and I spent alot of time actually finding out who I was, and what I was capable of (quite alot as it turns out!) before venturing out into the dating world.


I will add though, based on my experience; Please don't go out there thinking you

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-11-2007
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 1:12pm

Hi, and WELCOME!!!


I waited about 6 months before I dipped my toes into the dating pool.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-28-2008
In reply to: mandi_d_o
Fri, 10-10-2008 - 1:52pm

Welcome, Mandi :o)


We are happy to have you!!!


I dated about a year after my seperation. Its different for everyone. As for meeting men in bars? Probably not what I recommend. Unless you're looking for short term fun. There are lots of ways to meet men... and you will discover a huge wealth of stories and experiences here. Stick around, we're looking forward to getting to know ya.


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