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His email question
| Wed, 05-28-2008 - 12:59pm |
So I wrote a very direct email to him, basicly stating It has to be 100 percent done with her, no phone calls, or I'm out.
His email response this morning:
I WILL do what you require. I will have to wait until the next time she contacts me. That may be some time before she does. Until then, do you want to put our plans on hold until that time

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I would probably take some time "off" to see how you feel.
I think we are in a time off without even had said so exactly. I have no plans on seeing him tonight nor do I have plans to see him again EVER unless he mans up and does something better.
Now I think I would be even more curious to be a fly on the wall for that phone call if/when he tells her to stop calling. And see if he says "We can't talk anymore because Pacific says we can't" or if he will say that they can't keep talking because it isn't right to be talking when he is in a committed relationship with someone.
I know you care for BE alot, Pacific... but right now his attitude and approach to all of this is disgusting. (((((((((((Pac))))))))))))
Too bad I don't live closer- we could all go disc golfing- you, me and all of our kids! I think my boys would find it interesting (even if they can't do it)! I should find some of our old frisbees and take them out "for a spin" sometime since we DO have a DC course here! My kids just have NO distance/aim when it comes to a frisbee. lol
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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Good for you.
I hope to God he tells he it's because it's not right...and not "because pacific won't allow it". He needs to see the difference and be in the woth both feel willingly for it to work...not be drug into it.
I always feel like I'm fighting him on something. I guess deep inside he's just not as ready and committed as he thinks or talks about.
Thanks for the hugs! Ya..that would be so cool to go disc golfing with you guys. It is a blast! Yes, you guys should look into it..you'd love it.
Chocolate sounds great :o)
Look at me...I can't even handle my own "love life" and I'm giving out advice.
Hi PacSun,
I dont have any more to add but just wanted you to know i'm thinking of you. ((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))
Stay strong... you are doing fantastic at asserting yourself and being honest with yourself and with BE. Awesome.
Love,
Loonybunny
Thanks Loony :o)
I'm happy to hear your karaoke decision update. Bringing some friends and a cute guy or two sounds like just the answer!
OOOh sweetie - have I missed a huge thread! I am sorry I couldn't be here earlier to lend support - but the troop is so good you did great with everyone's help and support.
I think you handled that very well. And now the ball is in his court. Time out is good - maybe you can enjoy some disc golf or stuff with your dd or stuff just for you for a bit?
I was thinking - he is probably going to find her number when given time without you and time to cool down - his email to you sounds like a knee jerk reaction to something he doesn't like or want to do. And his insinuation that she is probably not going to call often or for a while is like trying to say this is not that important when it really is because it has been addressed before and it appeared he was sort of hiding it until prodded. I once read a quote that said, "If you really want to do it you will find a way, and if you don't you will find an excuse."
Time will tell you - hang in there. I think you made a good call to put your foot down about Broom Hilda - I would not like an SO talking to an FWB and never mind in the manner you tell us. And to let it keep going on is just crazy - I think he really has to come to terms with what you said and realize how what he did hurts you and is not good for you or the relationship. You did not overreact in my opinion - you set a very good and very healthy boundary for yourself and your heart.
And you have to think beyond your connection with him to the core of his being and values and ask yourself - is this the person you would go to the next level with? Because I know you have been having questions. Maybe he realizes this and it bothers him and that is why he is giving his time to Broom Hilda? Or maybe none of that is true and she just keeps talking to him because he will listen and she is needy and he doesn't realize it. Who knows!
Keep us posted!
"If you really want to do it you will find a way, and if you don't you will find an excuse."
That is a great quote!!!! I love it!
~shrimpy
It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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I dont know how you are taking this. You should not have to struggle this way. It is always one after the other. Now it is Broom Hilda tomorrow it will be something else. Point is, he doesnt "get it".
Do you hear me whispering"dump him, Pac"
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