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| Tue, 06-19-2007 - 11:26pm |
THIS is what I find aggravating about dating.
2+ weeks ago, the Match guy winked ... i thought he was a possibility. We eamiled every few days, after 3rd round, he asked me out for last week ... he asked on Mon, we decided to go out Fri. On Wed he e'd me, very nicely asking if we could "postpone till next week" b/c he got an offer to go on a "guys camping weekend away, last minute". I was fine with it & told him "no problem - who am *I* to get in teh way of a Boys camping weekend?!". We decided to go out instead, this coming Friday. The last thing he said to me was after I said "But, i think I could be free Fri the 22nd ... want to shoot for that?" he said "Yes, if that works for you it is good for me. Sorry to change things up on you at the last minute."
Then I just wrote back after "Anyway, have fun & just drop me a line next week to confirm for Friday - maybe by Wed or so? & my number is ******* if you want to call instead."
Ok, so its 11:23 pm on Tues nite. I *know* i said tell me by Wed, but do ya THINK he could have let me know he was back in town, it was fun, WHATever, & NOT make me wait till last minute???
I *almost* e'd him today - we have our love of dogs in common - & I had taken pics of my dogs swimming at teh beach Monday & wanted to send him pics of it ... we are both also into photography - but i didnt want to seem like i was begging for him to contact me.
I *know* i shoudlnt contact him .... but what do you guys think? I actually think it MAY have been ok to do it a couple days ago, but NOT now that the Wed deadline is almost here & i havent heard from him - THAT would look like Im chasing him.
Ah well, maybe he is just another jerk!
http://members.ivillage.com/rlch/
Edited 6/20/2007 5:34 pm ET by rlch


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SHOOT GIRLS! So sorry! lol NO, no date tonite (well,not with HIM anyway ...) I thought i posted here. ... lots of opinoins on OLD baord! Here's the excerpts ...
I posted this this AM:
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Good morning .... *yawn* Just in from Lawn Boys b4 the kidlet awakens ;)
Anyway, I took some or you advice & decided what could it hurt? - i needed to book, or not to book a sitter for tonite. I just had a "feeling" things would fall thru, thats why i didnt just assume our plans were positive, even though me made them. I mean, you talk to someone for 2 weeks, change a 1st date, he gets back on a Sunday & your re-scheduled date is for the next Fri - with NO definate plans where or when to meet - & you never hear a word from him again?
I sent this on Thurs AM *** "How did the Boys weekend go? Hope well, w/o too many mosquito, beer or bike casualties! I took the dogs to the beach on Sunday & we had a blast. Just checking in with you to be sure we are still on for Fri nite - so i can plan accordingly. Lemme know! (if so, time & place would help) ;) Thanks, R~" ***
& its 6:46 AM Friday morning. NEXT. Even if he DOES contact me today, i dont think i would go. The *only* excuse he has is he doesnt seem to email all that much. He tends to take 2 days at least, to respond to an email, but hello? its been FIVE days since he's been back in society. I wont send a Hate Mail, lol. I will just forget about him. If i hear from him, I will let him know that being a MOM, one has to have more definate plans WAY earlier. Funny though - this was my issue with Carlos at the beginning. Like this guy, a bachelor with no kids. We would make a plan to "do something Fri nite" on maybe Tues ... & then I would GET any details till that day. Carlos learned very quickly, b/c i TOLD him - "i HAVE TO plan ahead".
In the MEANTIME ... a really hot firefighter has contacted me on Match. He lives on the Cape, but only less than about 1 hr from me. He is 39, SAYS 5' 10" & is seperated (no kids). Im not to thrilled about the seperated part, but will let you know how i handled that. He seems VERY my "type", unlike this guy for tonite, whom I was wishy-washy about. This guy I would be really psyched to meet. Plus, Im a wine snob ;) & he mentioned how i have in my profile that I have done the CA & Tuscany vineyards & he said THE THREE MAGIC WORDS ... "Silver Oak Cabernet". I *swear*, he chose my ALL TIME fav red wine ... he said "i have 2 all time favorite reds .." & that was one of them. At about $90 a bottle, he is MY TYPE ;) (Small Peanut - we like HIM, right? lol)
Here's what we said about the separation thing, after 2 emails each, & he asked about getting together, I wrote this:
*** "Anyway - Sure, I wouldn't mind getting to know you a bit. BUT... the fact that you are separated gives me a little pause. I say a "little" b/c to me, there are different stages of separated ... the "good" separated is well on your way to divorce, no major hang ups, etc .. ready to move on, casually, & see where dating goes from there. The BAD separated? Your wife doesn't know yet - & believe me, in my 2.5 yrs of singlehood - I have run into that more than once. (& the guys are stupid enough to tell me! lol). I totally understand wanting to get out there & begin dating during the divorce process. I began dating about 7 months after we split up & the divorce took almost 2 more years, so i wasnt waitng around 4-ever. BUT, i knew i was "done" with my marriage. I just hesitate to get to know someone , & possibly get involved with them, to find out down the line, that the divorce isnt happening. -- SO ... with all THAT in mind, let me know what you think & maybe we can chat a bit."
& here is his repsonse to that:
*** "Rebecca: Wow where do I start? First I love your honesty second I love that you drink red wine. Just let me say this as it regards to my marriage, I am separated and getting divorced- it is complicated process, due to a few things, two homes, two golf course memberships and one dog . Well you know, you've been through this . but we are both amicable and things are moving along at a nice pace"
So - i think I am interested in him, anyway! :)
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It opened up a ton of dialougue on whether or not i should have contacted him or not. Its interesting, if you want to take a peek. For some reason, I cant get a link to it.
btw- since then the firefighter has answered my question of "do you & your wife still live together" & they dont. He said "No, we dont live together. She lives in a condo in Boston & has for a few years now". Apparently their divorce is taking a while b/c they own 2 homes, 2 golf country club memberships & a dog ... BUT, it shouldnt take THAT long.
It sounds like we will meet - but i leave for Disney this weekend & cant see being able to meet him for a couple weeks - hope he doesnt lose interest by then! He looks cute!
I just had a funny thought - if you will excuse my humor - maybe he will be divorced by then? LOL!!
Have a fun trip - all the members from OLD will be here for when you get back!!
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