Hmmm, red flag, don't know..........???

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Hmmm, red flag, don't know..........???
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Fri, 02-04-2005 - 5:56pm
Today, my High School sweetheart of 4,5 yrs contacted me, that he was separating from his wife, because they just seem to clash for years and nothing is working and he just can't seem to forget about me and he heard I was coming back to Texas and it would kill him if he knew I was in the same city and he couldn't see me. He said, his marriage has been over for years and they have just doing the steps and he just can't get over us never having gotten married as we were going to, until I met Scott (Alex's Dad). He said, he knows I am visiting and he doesn't want to shock me, but he does want to try to give it a go again to see if maybe we did miss something or not, if I could think about us again. To start off my emailing for the next 3 months and then meeting up in San Antonio for lunch, or a day, or dinner or something fun. To see if their is still something between us. I told him, that I don't want to be the person to seem like I was ruining the marriage and he said, it was nothing like that, but when he saw me again 3 yrs ago and everytime he does see me, all the feelings he's had for me come back and he still really loves me and he just needs to finally figure out if their is still something their or not. I think he has this idea of what I was like in High School, but I have grown up into someone totally different, but he just feels that it's still right between us. He asked if it would be ok to just email and see what happens and go with the flow........
Hmmm, what should I do? Do I just give it a shot or do I just shoot it down? He knows I won't be coming back until the Spring 2006, so maybe by then things have patched up again for him and his wife. It sounds like a red flag to me, but I told him I am not interested in any sort of games, or going behind anyone's back, etc. That he would have to be separated completely for me to even consider, but I am open to at least seeing him for lunch or coffee when I am in Texas. Is this wrong or what?

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Registered: 01-05-2005
Mon, 02-07-2005 - 11:15am
just watch out for that "wounded bird" thing Maggie used to tell us about. Don't let him make you his psychologist, helping him figure out his problems. He needs to do that on his own.

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