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| Mon, 04-02-2007 - 9:57am |
I met a guy this Saturday who is Hot Hot Hot. I couldn't take my eyes off him.... LOL. Let me tell you the story...
So my karaoke girl friend was on the prowl... she said she had spent too many weekends alone, called me up and wanted to go out to meet guys, she said. We had fun... The funniest part was when she was dancing to "Baby Got Back", she ripped her pants. ROLF. She needed a ride home to change, and I wasn't going to do it since I had a couple drinks. A guy friend of ours found someone who would give her a ride. When she got back, I notice that he was friends with the Hotty. Hmmm. maybe we should meet them both. Actually, my friend wasn't interested in the guy who gave her the ride, but he had another friend who was cute, too.
Let me back up a bit, when we first got to karaoke, I spotted a cutie pie playing pool... i couldn't take my eyes off him.. it's so funny. But seriously, from head to toe, he was HOT. I don't think he noticed and I was casually hoping that he would look my way so that I could smile, etc. But my friend on the prowl said, "I'm going to introduce myself". I just told her don't steal my guy. So, she went right up to them and started talking to them. Then, they look over my way, she points me out, and they wave. How embarrassing. But what was cool was my hottie came over to my table and said "Let me make this easy for you...." He introduced himself and asked me to sit with him and his friends. His name is Richard. After we hung out for a bit, they asked if we wanted to go to another bar. So we did.
We had lots of laughs. Anyway, after we exchanged phone numbers, Richard, asked me to call him. But after everything I've learned on this board, I said, No, it's the guys job to call the girl. And he said, "oh, i thought it was the other way around." "What?!", I was thinking. I told him, no, if the guy is interested, he calls.... that's how it works. Okay, so he said he would call me after I dropped my friend off and probably leave some lame voice message. Which is what happened because I didn't hear the phone ring. And I was tired so I haven't called back, yet. He also said, and how many days are you going to ignore my calls ...
So, in this case I should call him back, right? I'm thinking of giving him a call today. I know my friend said she was calling her guy yesterday. I feel slightly bad that I let her do all the work... while I tried to look casual. But I couldn't stop her if I tried. She was just in one of those moods AND she didnt have a drop to drink.
Final thought: I know looks aren't everything.... but he was Hotcha Hotcha. I'm hoping he wants to go out on a real date... but I'll wait for him to ask me.
Loonybunny

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Well, hellooooo there, sunshine!
Yes, definitely call him back. Keep the conversation short, and Do NOT initiate the conversation about a date. If he wants to take you out, he'll ask, if not, he won't. It is that simple.
Also, in the future, I wouldn't tell a man it was his job to call me, instead, I'd simply play it light and cool. In fact, if a man offers to give me his number, and I'm interested, I say, "no, here's mine." I don't TAKE their number. This makes it clear to them that they must call me in order to see me, yet I am not telling them that's their job, since many people don't like being told what to do.
In any case, call him back, and keep us posted!
Moody, fanning the flames
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Just got off the phone with him... He was a good conversationalist, too. Wasn't one of those silent types.... He pretty much kept the conversation going and I didn't feel like I a dummy for calling. He said he was going to call me last night (but he could have just been saying that...). No mention of a date, yet, but he said "talk to ya later." AND he still asked me to call him because he doesn't know when I'd be able to take the call... I said, "if I dont pick up that means i'm busy but you can leave a message." I have a feeling that since my friend is also calling his friend that we will go out atleast on one double date. My brother owes me another night of babysitting this saturday. Let's hope it works out.
And okay, so I wasnt drooling over the phone since I couldn't see him... But it was the running joke last saturday. At one point he took off his sweater (he had a tshirt underneath) and I was fanning myself. Everyone said, I saw that....lol. The joke was because his friend Curtis caught me checking Richard out several times, even though Richard didn't notice....
Loonybunny ~ still daydreaming over this guy's "HOT HOT HOT"ness. Poor guy, I almost feel bad for him that I'm thinking of him like a piece of meat. I need cold water poured on me....lol.
"Poor guy, I almost feel bad for him that I'm thinking of him like a piece of meat. "
ROFLAO!!!!
You are so funny! I just love reading your updates. You have a lot of spunk to get out and have a good time. And I just think you did so good the way you handled the call thing. And he called - YEAH!!
So now - yes - call him back!!
Then come back and report. Good luck!!
I love your attitude! YAY!
I say make the call (so he knows you're interested) and then let him do a bit of chasing... you're worth it!
Looking forward to updates!
Clem xx
Could this be a complication.... turns out the two guys are roommates (not just friends)... so when my friend called his friend, he knew about it..... In your opinion, do you think this will make me look bad? I tried to give her older woman advice about not calling her guy EVERY day. She wouldn't listen to me. I told her "don't call him", give him a chance to call you.... I told her if she had to call him then how about every third day. She thought I was crazy....
So bottom line for me is do you think I will be "guilty by association"? Or will she make me look good to my guy since I'll be giving him more space? Or do you think it won't make a difference either way?
I think since there roommates that if either one of us call it will count as a call to both of them... right or wrong?
Don't think it makes any difference. What your girlfriend does has no reflection on how you are behaving. Maybe leave it a day or two and then call - he will be dying to hear from you by then!
Clem xx
Okay. First, your friend has to make her own mistakes, and who knows, maybe it will work out for her.
Secondly, one of you calling does NOT constitute a call for both of you, to both men. You're not getting off that easily!
And as far as her making you look good- if these men have half a brain between them, they'll get that the two of you are seperate individuals, just as they are. What you do has no bearing on what she does, and vice versa. What works for you may not work for her, and the same is true for the guys. Living together doesn't make them clones, it simply makes them pals.
I wouldn't even think about any of this- her relationship, fling, or love affair is simply that, hers. Yours is yours. One has nothing to do with the other besides a quirky coincidence.
Moody, who typically leads by example of what NOT to do
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Some of you may have missed my call update that I already posted on comment #3. I called Mr Hottie yesterday at lunch. We had a great conversation. IF I call him again it will be later in the week... but only because he asked me to call since I'm the one with the busy schedule.
Well, it's good to hear that my friend's behavior won't reflect badly on me.... I can see how I'll have to have a boundaries conversation with her about not relaying messages to Richard unless I've asked her... like for example, I told her that I have a babysitter saturday if her and I want to go out... and it would be cool if the guys asked us out... BUT I would die (well, not literally) if she tells one of them that I suggested it... know what i mean.
It's all a learning experience. It's all good.
Loonybunny
LB, I hope you don't mind if I post a quick little cautionary tale about friends dating boyfriends friends.
Right after my divorce my best friend's new boyfriend suggested we get together with a friend of his for a night of bowlng. It was not a double date and I don't think it was
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