Hottie2 has surprised me

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Hottie2 has surprised me
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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 4:53am

Don't know what to make of this girls... Hottie2 has surprised me. He is NOT after sex.... at least that's my new impression.. his exact words "i don't want to rush things".... surprise! surprise!


Thurs are a standard karaoke night..... so i met Hottie2 after work... hung out with him and his crowd. He didn't drive but i offered to drive him home when his crowd left... we hung out and chatted. For quite a loooong time.. then he kissed me. unbelievably HOT!... we talked then kissed again.... this went on for about an HOUR!... i enjoyed his company and he enjoyed mine. He got a hair cut and he was too cute. He in turn told me that i am cute as a button.


So then i drove him home and again we sat in my car chatting for another hour... then we started kissing again... pretty intense and he started talking about respect. And i said, i'm glad you respect me... that is so sweet. So, even though we were making out like crazy he didn't go overboard and instead said "i don't want to rush into anything."... what do you make of that??! He was very respectful... i'm in shock.


He did say it was my choice and i said, i agree, let's leave it as it is ... it has been a great night!


could i have pegged this guy all wrong... is he looking for a "relationship"??? I'm going to continue as i am... my funfilled self who won't obsess... i'll continue to let him set the pacing... which so far is a great pace... He texts me daily with a "hi" or silly joke.... he calls about twice a week... and we've seen each other only once per week in the last two weeks... good pace...


i would have pegged this guy to have his hands everywhere and begging me up to his room by date #2... but instead his hands stayed put and we stayed outside and goodnight at the door... pretty cool actually.


Loonybunny


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Registered: 03-19-2008
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 7:14am

I think you have met a gentleman! Good for you. I think you are right to not obsess and keep it light and see how it goes. About when would you consider it exclusive?


Keep us advised. He sounds promising.


Laurie

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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 9:34am
Wow - so hottie2 is after you!! And very good that he doesn't want to rush you - keep us posted!! That is a good turn!! :-)
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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 10:09am

Uh oh- so what do you plan to do if he wants a long-term relationship? Will you be ready? Or will you tell him that you only want a short-term relationship (as you described- just a couple-of-years boyfriend).... and then see how things go?


It's like such a fine line... to want only some temporary fun (not lifelong commitment) but yet not knowing just what the future might hold. And you don't want to give up your time and energy on someone who you can't imagine spending the rest of your life with (because that just MIGHT happen too).


Maybe he is only looking for fun, too. It'll be interesting to see how this unfolds for you!

~shrimpy


It's never too late to live happily ever after, and always be grateful for those who make our souls blossom.

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Fri, 08-01-2008 - 11:31am

one day at a time.... he prob likes my carefree attitude so i don't want to change that now... He was gentleman and that surprised me in a good way... what a nice turn of events. *grin*


the question is.... will Loony obsess? because that's usually what i do when i start to like someone... i told Libs (my female friend) he's already broken my heart because he's so cute. And he could still ghost (since that's the trend these days)

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Registered: 03-25-2002
Fri, 08-01-2008 - 7:05pm

>>About when would you consider it exclusive?<<


not exclusive til he brings it up... after all maybe he's