How about an info/intro thread?

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How about an info/intro thread?
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Wed, 02-21-2007 - 12:22am

Unless one has been done & I didnt see it recently, lol.

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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 12:14pm

Yes, we did talk about this--and I promised I would finish my e-mail to you (I still have your address). I would imagine it's been hard to contemplate when you're involved w/ someone--but if/when the time is right I'm happy to give you my story. So thankful I did it, so thankful for my DD...

Thinking of you, and what you've been going through. You seem to be doing a great job of distracting yourself!
Mary

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Thu, 02-22-2007 - 6:36pm
I'm Liz, 41 years old (definitely a yikes!).
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Mon, 02-26-2007 - 6:41pm

Well, hi there all I'm Florence. I just turned 31 last Thursday.I live in the Northern Newengland and it is cold up here.I am the proud mother of DS,age 7 and he is a great kid.The divorce was hard on him, as all of us, and he has done so well.He looks just like his father, but he acts just like me.

I am divorced a year and a half now. I went right into a relationship as soon as xh moved out.This was the relationship that will huant me forever.He was perfect except he was a mean controlling drunk who looked great in his uniform..So when the smoke cleared I basicaaly had 2 men to mourn and had far to many financal debt,so now I am at home with my mom. I'm going to school full time, and right now i am pretty much living off her. She is retired and is at home all the time. I am so grateful for her help, I would be in a really hard way if not for her.I graduate in November,so I'm getting there.

As far as my current dating status, It basically doesn't exist. I have a FWB guy, but it will only ever be that,I have't had a real date in about 2 months, and he turned out to be a total freak,it just was'nt worth the orgasm to deal with his behavior...I've discovered alot about myself, and I will not ever settle again, and it has to be all or nothing.I have intense fear of getting hurt again, and so I have a very hard time to give someone a chance. It has taken me almost a year to recover from the past relationship, and now I'm starting to want some company and take a relationship at a snails pace, but would at least like to try again at it.I tryly miss sleeping in some ones arms all night, and havent in over 6 months now, but like I said I'm not willing to settle,so I sleep alone.

Finding this board a few weeks ago has beem a very positive expierence, it is nice to see all of the different situations, but all a common thread..

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Mon, 02-26-2007 - 10:35pm

Hello, I am Jennifer. I will be 34 in two weeks. My dd will be five in a week. We live in Southern Colorado. Nice and sunny today.

I have been divorced for a year now. Have not really dated at all. Had a short term friend w/benefits but he is moving. Kind of sad, but the sex really wasn't that great, but it did help to pass the time. Wow, that sounds pathetic.

My ex lives in New Mexico so I have our dd most of the time. It makes it really hard to even try to date even if it is OLD. That experience has not been very great, but I am not too worried about my dating life. I would just like one nice dinner with a guy who doesn't talk about science fiction or fantasy books. My new standards include the question "Do you know the difference between Marvel and DC comics." If they do, they are not for me. Sad, but that has to be on the list.

My ex and I have a pretty good relationship. He talks to dd everyday on the phone which mean we talk almost every day. Met his new gf this past weekend. Never really wanted to meet the OW but I guess since it has been two years and my dd loves her, the time had come.

As far as work goes, I am a seventh grade teacher. I love it. I teach Language arts which is great and I love my kids.

I hope some of this made sense and I am happy to be on the board with you all.

Jennifer

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Tue, 02-27-2007 - 8:56am

Hi everyone, I am 36 yrs old, live in MI, been divorced 1-1/2 years, and have a DD6. She keeps me busy! The EX and I get along better now that we are divorced but we still have our moments. I posted my story on here last night under "divorced 1-1/2 yr still angry/upset" if you would like to read it and also offer any advice you may have!

I was with a guy for about a year (on and off) and it's just been a roller coaster. Right now we are 'off' and it's really tough. I miss him sometimes but then I remember some of the things he said and did and feel like I am making the right choice. When I told him I needed time away (again), he (again) asked me for money that he thougth I owed him, plus he asked for some of the gifts back that he had given me. I guess it's anger speaking. It's toughest on weekends for me, especially the weekends DD is with her dad and I'm alone. I used to go out with my friends all the time but lately, I just haven't felt very sociable...and it's SO DARN COLD HERE that I just want to sit on my couch with a blanket and watch TV. Pathetic huh?

Anyway, I work as an Auditor/Analyst for a major health insurance company. I've been there 9 years and I love it, however, I would rather be a SAHM anyday! I also work as a Coder on the weekends (an online job) so I am able to do that from home and also make some extra money. It always helps.

Great meeting all of you!

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Tue, 02-27-2007 - 8:58am
I forgot to mention that my story is on the "Surviving Divorce" board, not the Single Mothers and Dating one....sorry!
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Tue, 02-27-2007 - 11:27am

I've been divorced 2 years mother of 4 ages 16-9 and am an RN in surgical services. Been in a relationship almost a year. Things have been going relatively good there except that I'm not sure if it will "go anywhere". It's really hard to move foward when you have kids and demanding jobs to juggle. We've been kind of distant from each other since we returned from vacation. We're finally getting back on a schedule again, but not sure if it will happen. All I know is that he needs to make some sort of effort with that and I don't see it happening. If that's the case I'd rather know now before I get too much more invested in this. It's only been a year so I am at the point where we either move foward together or go our separate ways. Either way I know I'll be ok. I'm bound and determined to be happy alone or with someone. I'm not desparate, so if he doesn't want to make an effort than so be it. Don't get me wrong, I really enjoy his company; but he's been divorced longer than I have and it seems like relationships are disposable to him. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's been my impression.

I've been really broke lately with some money problems and am trying to pull extra overtime to help make ends meet. I make good money, but my fuel expenses have been killing me! My oil bill is like another mortgage payment.

On a more positive note, if I don't spend the weekend with my boyfriend I can go to the gym with one of my girlfriends from work and there's another woman from work that wants to go skiing with me and I'm also trying to get in shape for race season which starts in May.

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Tue, 02-27-2007 - 1:08pm

Hi everyone~

Dani here. Haven't been around in a while but had been posting a little last summer. I'm a 36 year old single Mom to three little boys ages 9, 6 and 4. I'm currently back in school working on a degree in Nursing. This schedule keeps me pretty busy.

I had been dating someone for about 6 months and things were going really well but about a month ago he was relocated for work out of state and he's just too far away now. I've been sad but it's getting better as time passes by. Dipping my foot back into the OLD pool again and I have a few prospecs. We shall see.

~Dani~




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Tue, 02-27-2007 - 4:03pm
I'm Amy. I'm 31, live in Warren MI (just outside of Detroit). Have one son named Jayden who was born 1/16/07. I'm kinda seeing someone but not really serious. Hoping to either get serious or get on cuz I am so ready to settle down. But have that fear I will never meet anyone. Don't have many friends in this area so hoping to make some new ones here!
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Wed, 02-28-2007 - 9:31pm

Hi Everyone,

My name is Belinda and I will be turning 45 in a couple of weeks. I live in Colorado and have two children. My son is almost 18 and will graduate this year from high school, and my daughter is 13 years old and in the 8th grade. I work for a large health organization in the pharmacy department.

I was married over 20 years to a rather cruel person who filed divorce papers in July 2005 to threaten and scare me. After he said, "We can call this off you know -- it's all up to you, I said "nah, let's go ahead with it" because I had had my fill of him. He now continues to hold up the divorce process. I was hoping it would be final March 13th, but he and his atty came up with an "emergency" and now we've been pushed back to April 4th. He has ripped me off and I hope to see some of the money recovered in the settlement.

Anyway, I have been dating this awesome, gentle, kind and great looking 46 year old pilot. We were set up by our friends and he has taken me to Paris, Venice and Nice in the past year. I am crazy about him. What's interesting is that my STBX said nobody would want me. Hah!

I started doing some oil painting and have joined a French speaking group to improve my French as I want to return to France soon. My mother is from France and her whole side of the family lives over there.

I took a huge risk by saying "no more" to a dysfunctional marriage where I had no voice, but it has been well worth it. Even though I've been blessed with a wonderful boyfriend (who lives in another state by the way, so I only see him once a month), it's not always easy, but at least I now have a blank canvas so I can start anew.

I wish you all the best.

Belinda