HOW DARE HE!!!
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| Mon, 04-19-2004 - 6:03pm |
He went on to tell me how he feels like Dylan is not getting all he needs from me and that I don't spend enough time with Dylan. He went on more to tell me how HE would do things differently and that HE would spend ALL his time with Dylan. There's no way he could! He works constantly and Dylan would be in daycare all the time. I have Dylan at home with me. He's with me all the time. Yes, I took my cruise (it was planned by Shane's job) and I have a honeymoon coming up. But he is not just thrown with random people. He's with my parents or my ex's mother for that time. Family, who loves him. Who will care for him and whom I can trust to be good to him. I hate leaving him for that time, but he knows I will be back and love him.
My ex has so much nerve saying these things to me and I pointed out that he has no right to pass judgement. I also told him that until he's some divine being, he will keep his mouth shut and stop imposing his thoughts on me. This man is a liar and a cheat and I can't believe he thinks he has any right to tell me how to live.
UGH!
I'm sorry, I had to vent. But he just really got to me and I'm furious!
Mel
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Doesn't taking the higher road over and over again get old???
But you know, to a kid, having two parties isn't a bad thing. My own kids love having Xmas at my house, dad's house, again at grandma's house and then finally the godmommy Xmas. To them two or more birthday cakes is great.
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Mel....(((hugs!!)))
About the birthday party....yes, he is a cad for first saying he'd be there and with the half-siblings too (Dylan must have been looking forward to that) and then backing out.
I guess what hits me hardest is that just before he called to say he was backing out, I found out I had to not do Dylan's birthday at Chuck E. Cheese where he wanted to have it. The party alone is about $200 and that's just too expensive. So not only did Dylan have to hear that we needed to find another place (which he was so mature and said it was fine) but he had to hear from daddy that he wasn't coming with his brothers. I'm so glad Dylan is well-adjusted and strong and mature. I did hear from a friend of mine here that her church has a huge rec room with bowling and pool tables and other things plus a covered playground and grills and picnic area. She said it's a great place for parties and I can have it all afternoon for like $10-20. Her son has his birthdays there all the time because it's where he chooses to do it. She told me it was very nice and that I might consider that and she'd make the arrangements.
I sent Scott an email this morning to tell him that I no longer wished to have a vocal relationship with him. He could call my home and speak only to Dylan and that if he had anything further to say to me, send an email because I am not in the mood to hear him judge me anymore.
I think it's better that way.
And I'll take your advice. I just want this wedding to be a perfect dream and I know it will be. I have a beautiful dress, gorgeous ring, perfect location, the man of my dreams, lots of family and friends attending, and my adorable little boy giving me away. We have our health, and we have love. What could be better?
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Mel
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I'm fine with him throwing a party of their own for Dylan if that is what he feels better about, however, he should never have said all these months that he was coming. And he thinks I'm backing out of promises to our son....maybe he needs to take a long lok at himself.
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You know, Mandy, I've made mistakes just like any of you have and I know some of my choices may not have been what others would have made for me, but I made them, and paid for them if they were wrong. I never am out to hurt my son and to be accused of doing so is so hurtful.
Did you know he accused me of saying to my son that if Dylan went to live with his father, he'd never see me again????? How could I do that? And he claims Dylan was adamant that I said it. Dylan is FOUR and tends to tell stories. Maybe he was expressing concern that if he went to live with daddy, he couldn't come see me. Who knows? Scott chooses to blame me. And also Dylan is telling me that his father tells him when he's eleven, Dylan will live with them instead of me. He's adamant about that too, yet Scott denies it.
I don't know what to believe. I'm just tired of being blamed for everything wrong with the world. The man lied, the man cheated, and now he's jealous because I got our child. He needs to chill out. I took it while married to him and I no longer have to.
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Mel
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As far as him makign those comments, I find that they like to hook you and get us upset. I find that ignoring them is the best medicine - you don't give them any power whatsoever. I just give my ex "okay" and "yes" and "oh really" response and then hang up. I know you know that your ex is wrong in what he is saying and he knows it also, but he got exactly what he wanted from you - you got upset and responded back.
Just let it go and don't give them any sort of power and use up your energy in responding. Eventualy they get the picture.
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Yesterday, he called and as soon as I saw his number, I got Dylan to the phone and let him answer it. As soon as he was done, I pushed the hang up button. I like it better that way. I'm anxious to see how he acts tomorrow when I take Dylan to the drop off point. My good friend here in town laughs about it because she says this ought to be the most quiet drop off ever. But in all seriousness, it's sad because he can't even be mature enough to try to get along. I've tried and I'm done putting forth the effort just to get accusations and blame in return.
Of course, that's what unhappy people do...blame others.
Anyway, I thank you all for the advice and I'm taking it. I have too much to look forward to. And I'm not about to allow my ex to ruin it.
Hugs,
Mel
Oh and BTW: Dylan is getting his Chuck E. Cheese Party after all. Shane was adamant and I looked into things and it appears we can afford it so he's getting what he was promised and even though he was happy no matter what, he will have the party he always wanted.
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About the other things...I can only recommend what I told my ex. I told him if he thought I am an unfit parent he should take me to court...but that otherwise, DH/I will run things in our house as we see fit.
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