How do you flirt?

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How do you flirt?
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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 12:06pm

Okay - florence2007 asks, how do I flirt?

I think I know how to flirt - but probably don't do that nearly enough - and maybe there are more ways for me to flirt?

SO... let's start an idea thread here, ladies. Have you flirted lately? If so, tell us!! Or tell us your idea of flirting so we can all learn and do more of it!

Last night I was at the grocery store and there was the cutest guy. I was looking at him and not watching where I was going and CRASH- me and the cart plowed into the melon case. I looked up at him with devilish eyes and smiled at him. He smiled back. But then he wife came over and put something in the cart. Oh well - at least I did flirt a little and laugh at myself!

And of course you all remember the detective story - where I saw him down the street and then bent all the way over into the bottom of the garbage can to put the loose contents in the bag I was holding. Then when he drove by I gave him the eyes and smile of the year and could tell he was impressed. He is no where to be found - but at least I am getting practice.

OKAY - and today I took Oprah's advice. Went to breakfast with my son and the dogs. My closet is recently cleaned - all clothes sorted by color - all shoes, too. Absolutely no clutter in closet and nothing I don't wear. SO... I dressed like I was going on a blind date!LOL!! Turqoise sweater top, Egyptian black and turquoise shoes, crop jeans with black belt, hair pulled up, bracelet and necklace to match, light makeup. WOW - I surprised myself. I mean, I have like tons of good stuff in my closet - so I have to do that more often.

We didn't run into anyone - but talked to a lot of people who loved our dogs. Have to take them out more often, too.

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Registered: 12-27-2006
Sun, 04-29-2007 - 1:30pm

Fun thread! I love to flirt and practice quite often actually!


I think it's a matter of having the confidence to smile and start a conversation with anyone, even a perfect stranger. If you're standing in line at the bank or grocery store and there's someone who's caught your eye in front of you, it could be as simple as smiling and saying "I ALWAYS pick the slowest lines! Do you promise not to be too slow so we can all get out here today?" Gotta make sure that comes off light and funny, not whiny :)


Or if you're in a club somewhere and someone looks at you, hold their eyes a little longer than comfortable and flash a huge smile... then turn to your girlfriend and say OMG he's such a hottie -- making sure he can totally tell what your saying to your friend, works great if he's not to far away and there's lots of loud music, cuz then you almost have to yell it to your friend, ha!


Just being friendly and open to connections, and taking the risk of making the first move is what flirting is all about to me.

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Registered: 02-22-2007
Sun, 04-29-2007 - 9:07pm

Oh, dogs are a great flirt tool. I feel nasty because I have a 3 and 1/2 year old very lively daughter. So, sometimes her antics give me lots of situations when people are chuckling at her and I make some comments (or add more info of past DDisms). One time in a bank for example a really cute guy was fairly sympathetic about my DD trying to sneak away while I was hissing under my breath for her to behave, I said to him, I'm thinking of putting her on a leash, but still don't quite agree with them. He said he had to do it for his boys(!) as his family lived in Toronto (bustling danger everywhere), we're in N. Ontario and it's not quite as bustling here. I was amused that men would talk personal about their lives right off the bat when they see something in common with me - lol.

There's a guy I've been attracted to who works in my building, we've chatted often practically becoming friends, but one time we were social chatting and DD was acting up and I had to bend down to her level and remove my keys from her hands or something, then I realized that I had a low V-neck shirt on and I think the guy got an eyefull of cleavage (I'm preg. so I'm a bit proud of the girls right now, won't last though). Well the guy's eyes were big, round and clearly not looking at my face when I stood up. LOL. Awe...too bad he's married, I won't torture him much longer, I can hardly wait to have the baby so I can be completely distracted away from that man.

So, IMHO, get a good push up bra on, get the right top on, take the dogs out and when you catch the eye/ear of a guy, try bending down to pat a dog - lol - and try not to be too sly when you look back at the guy = lol. It's fun!

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Sun, 04-29-2007 - 10:07pm

Well I have to say that I too have done the bend-over-with-the-low-cut-top-boobs-pushed-up move too. lol My problem is keeping eye contact. I will look around at people and if I catch the eye of a cute guy I will smile slightly as in a "hi" kind of way. If I am introduced to someone I will joke with them a little just to let them know that I'm friendly and open to talk if they want to contintue talking with me. I used to be soooo backward and shy but I have gotten a lot better with introducing myself or just talking to someone who happens to be in the same area I am in.

I was in Lowes the othe day and was waited on by a cute cashier. He was younger than me but cute and I figured I would work on my eye contact skills. lol Sooo, when he told me to have a good day, I was gathering my bag, so I told him the same and looked right up at him and gave him a smile. Funny thing was he was already looking at me before I looked up. :) That was a little reassuring.

I think my smile has always been my #1 flirting tool (next to the 'girls' lol) because I have always gotten complements on it, whether by dates or by people in general, and so I try to use it to my advantage. :)

That's all I've got. Would love to learn more tricks!

Jennifer

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Mon, 04-30-2007 - 2:13am
I cannot flirt in public unless I feel like I have the upper-hand in some way...like knowing someone else in the conversation or something. I have the HARDEST time not sharply averting my eyes from a handsome gentleman in public....what's the trick?? The very few times I've even attempted it I feel so uncomfortable I don't know what to do after that. Yikes, I need some advice here too!
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Tue, 05-01-2007 - 5:05pm

Flirting is fun... I get a lot of tips from watching romantic comedies... Like here's a good one I saw on "Failure To Launch"... Sarah Jessica says to Mathew McCaunahe... "I dont' usually have sex on the first date, but...."

LOL. That caught his attention and she did NOT have sex on the first date, either... it was a little teaser line to spark and intrigue. I haven't used it, yet, but i might.

Another technique I stole from a movie was just giving a cute guy my phone number on a piece of paper. I got that from "Good Will Hunting". (It worked for Minnie Driver.) The guy called me up because he was intrigued with my courage... And it made a good laugh...

Sometimes I flirt more for me than for getting a date... My girl friends and I laugh about the crazy things we do... and if the guy does or does not respond is really secondary to the fun we have....

As far as techniques that actually work.... simply making eye contact and smiling is a very good flirting method.

Loonybunny