How do you get over the fear...

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-16-2004
How do you get over the fear...
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Tue, 11-01-2005 - 10:54am
of messing up? Hi, I'm newly divorced (as of March 05) and would like to begin dating again. The thing is, I recently found myself running away from the men I meet. The last person I dated, we were together for 4 months. Then he used the word girlfriend and I panicked. I mean I literally had a panick attack for 3 days before I told him I couldn't deal with the 'word', not him. After some personal soul searching I realized I was scared of committments. I mean I would love to find that one person who will love me unconditionally and I him. But right now I seem to be pushing them away. Any advice?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 11-01-2005 - 6:52pm

It sounds like some therapy would be in order.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 11-01-2005 - 8:54pm

Hi there and welcome!

I agree with Jennie - you should seek therapy. It will help you find out why you are having these panic attacks. And it will help you learn successful dating tactics so you are less likely to make big preventable mistakes.

Dating is not easy - it requires a tough skin. You have to be ready for it.

Maybe for right now you just need more time to read some good books and put your life back together.

Stay here and participate with us - it will do you a world of good.

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Wed, 11-02-2005 - 11:21pm

Sounds to me like you're not ready to date yet.


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