How do you meet new people.......

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Registered: 07-15-2003
How do you meet new people.......
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Tue, 03-13-2007 - 2:26pm

...when you are an extremely busy mom of three girls? My youngest daughter plays softball for two teams, including a travel team. My middle daughter plays softball and girl scouts as well as my oldest daughter. I am new to dating again after a 10 year marriage and just don't know where to start or even if I can fit in a date. LOL! I'm also not one to just start up a conversation, but when approached first do fairly well. I feel too old to even try again, but miss the companionship ya know?

Thanks in advance!

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Registered: 07-26-2005
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 7:40pm

I feel your pain. Single mom now after 10 years marraige. I have 50-50 custody with my ex, though, so I understand that it may be a bit different.

I have joined a professional/singles group that has a ton of activities. Most men I've met since then are through that. It's active in most large cities... it's called YAPclub. Another is meetup.com - there are all kinds of groups; including ones you need for just you. And beyond that, I've asked my friends to keep an eye out and I (try to)consider every outing from gymnastics to the grocery store a potential place to met men, so I make sure I look decent-good.

Hope that helps!

K

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Registered: 02-08-2006
Tue, 03-13-2007 - 9:43pm

Hi and welcome! First of all, you're never too old to try something new- including dating. My grandmother just got remarried last year- after nearly 30 years of being single.

Without using a lot of cliches and platitudes, just know that the right guy for you will be out there- and he WILL approach you first.

In general though, you could try online dating, which gives you the convenience of ruling out a number of men before wasting time meeting them. You could ask your girlfriends to set you up with eligible men they think you might be a match with. Or you can simply go about your busy life, and keep yourself open to the possibility of meeting someone at one of your daughters' activities, work, school, or church.

Any one of these things can work- we're all different, and we all have varying levels of success with meeting people in specific places. Just know that we are all in this together, and we're always here to offer encouragement, support and advice.

Dating does take time, but if having companionship and spending time with someone is important to you, it can be so worth it. Don't think of it as a chore, though, rather as a way to have fun!

Good luck and keep us posted!

Moody, all about the fun


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Registered: 11-20-2003
Wed, 03-14-2007 - 6:13am

Hi

Companionship is so important, and no-one is ever too old to start again!

It can be hard to find the time to date when you are a single mum. Do you have family or babysitters nearby who can look after your children so you can go out?

On-line dating can be a good option for some people, and it no longer holds the same stigma as it did when it first started. Many people with busy lives just don't have the time or opportunity to meet prospective dates, and dating on-line means that you can weed out unsuitable candidates from the outset. It also has the advantage of allowing you to be very picky, and really specify what you need from a potential partner. As with anything on-line, you need to exercise a certain amount of caution, and make sure you're safe at all times. Good first dates would be an afternoon coffee, or in any case something in daylight and with plenty of other people around. Never give out your address until you're sure the person is 100% trustworthy.

Good luck! Let us know how it goes...

Clem xx