How do you not

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How do you not
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:38pm

get excited about someone on OLD?

April

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:52pm
It is hard not to get excited. Even IRL. I joined a class that's starting next month and I have these silly thoughts going through my head like "Oooo maybe I'll meet someone". I get myself worked up sometimes just going somewhere different. I'm kind of silly that way. Being my luck, it'll be a class with a bunch of yahoos in it or people a lot older than me. With OLD, just someone taking time to communicate is flattering to me.
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 4:57pm

With OLD, just someone taking time to communicate is flattering to me.


Exactly!


I joined a class that's starting next month and I have these silly thoughts going through my head like "Oooo maybe I'll meet someone".


I did once!

April

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 5:05pm

I was sooooo disappointed that he was such a jesus freak--I was hoping for just a freak ;-)


LOL...you could have just asked him to leave his sandals at the foot of the bed..Just kidding!


~Pacific..feeling a bit "anxious" to get home tonight for "quality time" with my own freak hehe.


~Pacific~
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 5:28pm

How do you keep from getting too excited about someone? Uh, when you have been burned or disappointed enough times you will learn. OLD is alot of weeding out of jerks and guys that are incompatible.

Remember, you can be anybody you want to be online. Many times it doesn't transfer over to real life. Someone may seem great until you meet in person and there is no chemistry or their pics are not recent.

Don't rule out the other guys you are communicating with just because you like this one better. Keep your options OPEN! I used to do the same thing and would focus on the one I liked the best. Most of the time they would just ghost or there was no chemistry or a huge red flag was flying once we met.

I learned all of this the hard way and wish I would of had this board when I first divorced!
Steph

Edited 3/26/2008 5:35 pm ET by texas_mom1991




Edited 3/26/2008 5:38 pm ET by texas_mom1991
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 5:43pm

Have fun with you..ummm..quality time!


April (wishing for some quality time of her own....but willing to wait a good long time for someone worth the effort!)


April

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 5:49pm

April (wishing for some quality time of her own....but willing to wait a good long time for someone worth the effort!)


Good!!!

~Pacific~
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 5:59pm

ROTFLMAO!!

April

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 6:16pm
I could not agree more with what Steph writes - only TIME and actions will tell what someone is all about. Experience is a good teacher.
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 6:49pm

Why not get excited? Enjoy the fun!!! Dating should be FUN!!!!


The only thing to remember is to not put all your eggs (and future) into this one person until a huge chunk of time has passed and he's proven over time that he can be trusted. But in the meantime, just take things lightly, enjoy things just for what they are (little things don't ALL have to MEAN some huge thing) and don't analyze too much!!! Pay attention to your deal-breakers... but don't over analyze to the point where you just don't enjoy the time.


Men are just people too. They are not knights to save or rescue you. They are not gods to worship. They are just people with penises. LOL


So enjoy them as people to discover and get to know... and if a relationship is going to develop, it will develop on its own, naturally. :-)


~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 6:57pm

They are just people with penises.


I love it!!


April

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