Definitely have fun! Didn't mean to sound like a total wet blanket! I did have a couple of fun dates but we just weren't right for each other. I also know several people that met their spouses on Eharmony, so you never know!
Men ARE people with penises, you just have to weed out the ones that are ONLY able to think with them!!
The message board on online dating here at ivillage is pretty good. Might wanna check it out. S
"Men ARE people with penises, you just have to weed out the ones that are ONLY able to think with them!!"
LOL! I am having a laugh at you and Shrimps - Shrimps - what did you eat for lunch to come up with such funny stuff!!
But anyway- that part is true - I think you have to determine what someone wants in a relationship - if they are just getting over one and only want to have fun or want something serious - and if they are into you and capable of something good and a good match. There are so many variables. On one hand it is fun to learn but on the other hand it all takes time.
I see a lot of guys who dearly want a relationship or at least the trappings of it - but they have major issues that really inhibit that - like jobs that force them to travel all the time, or big party lifestyles.... or preferences that just don't jive with a kid.
Should you try to date when you are good and ready for a relationship which may end up making you read more into things because you want a relationship - OR - should you just date around when you really aren't all that interested just to keep yourself in there and "practice" for when you really do want to.
Excuse me as I let my brain ramble a bit here...
I think theoretically, you could date casually if you're not ready for a relationship. But you'd better make sure you let the OTHER person know that from the start. Don't agree to spending too much time together if you're not wanting to get serious. I think you could "practice" by dating some, and dating various people- without getting serious with any of them (and letting them KNOW that- so you're not leading any of them on, thinking it will turn into anything more).
But I think that what Mark has mentioned about being "good and ready" for a relationship, is when you are secure in yourself and who you are (as YOURSELF, alone, not as a part of a couple)- not that you're "good and ready" to just dive into something. There are plenty of people who are good and ready for a relationship, but they are not TRULY ready to be a complete addition to contributing to a whole relationship. They think they are good and ready only because they are tired of being alone. To me, that isn't the kind of "good and ready" that is the right reason.
For me personally? If I'm wanting to date when I'm not wanting to get serious... I tend to just acquire male friends for getting out and doing things with. But it's NOT a romantic thing. It's just practice at having a social outing.
"Men are just people too....They are just people with penises." ROFLMAO!!!!
My word, woman, You do crack me up. But kidding aside, I totally agree. When you take the approach that each date is just an opportunity to meet another person, experience someone else's views and interests, that it's all just part of the big adventure called life, then dating is very fun. It's when we weigh it down with expectations of a future that we get disappointed and jaded by the whole thing. And, men do that too, not just we women.
QB, looking forward to seeing my particular person with a penis tomorrow......
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They are just people with penises
Definitely have fun! Didn't mean to sound like a total wet blanket! I did have a couple of fun dates but we just weren't right for each other. I also know several people that met their spouses on Eharmony, so you never know!
Men ARE people with penises, you just have to weed out the ones that are ONLY able to think with them!!
The message board on online dating here at ivillage is pretty good. Might wanna check it out.
S
"Men ARE people with penises, you just have to weed out the ones that are ONLY able to think with them!!"
LOL! I am having a laugh at you and Shrimps - Shrimps - what did you eat for lunch to come up with such funny stuff!!
But anyway- that part is true - I think you have to determine what someone wants in a relationship - if they are just getting over one and only want to have fun or want something serious - and if they are into you and capable of something good and a good match. There are so many variables. On one hand it is fun to learn but on the other hand it all takes time.
I see a lot of guys who dearly want a relationship or at least the trappings of it - but they have major issues that really inhibit that - like jobs that force them to travel all the time, or big party lifestyles.... or preferences that just don't jive with a kid.
WEED WEED WEED!!
So this whole thread and something Mark said a long time ago has got me thinking.
Should you try to date when you are good and ready for a relationship which may end up making you read more into things because you want a relationship - OR - should you just date around when you really aren't all that interested just to keep yourself in there and "practice" for when you really do want to.
Excuse me as I let my brain ramble a bit here...
I think theoretically, you could date casually if you're not ready for a relationship. But you'd better make sure you let the OTHER person know that from the start. Don't agree to spending too much time together if you're not wanting to get serious. I think you could "practice" by dating some, and dating various people- without getting serious with any of them (and letting them KNOW that- so you're not leading any of them on, thinking it will turn into anything more).
But I think that what Mark has mentioned about being "good and ready" for a relationship, is when you are secure in yourself and who you are (as YOURSELF, alone, not as a part of a couple)- not that you're "good and ready" to just dive into something. There are plenty of people who are good and ready for a relationship, but they are not TRULY ready to be a complete addition to contributing to a whole relationship. They think they are good and ready only because they are tired of being alone. To me, that isn't the kind of "good and ready" that is the right reason.
For me personally? If I'm wanting to date when I'm not wanting to get serious... I tend to just acquire male friends for getting out and doing things with. But it's NOT a romantic thing. It's just practice at having a social outing.
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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"Men are just people too....They are just people with penises." ROFLMAO!!!!
My word, woman, You do crack me up. But kidding aside, I totally agree. When you take the approach that each date is just an opportunity to meet another person, experience someone else's views and interests, that it's all just part of the big adventure called life, then dating is very fun. It's when we weigh it down with expectations of a future that we get disappointed and jaded by the whole thing. And, men do that too, not just we women.
QB, looking forward to seeing my particular person with a penis tomorrow......
Yeah- the men out there need to see us women as people too. Not just people with Boobs.
LOL
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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