how does one stay out of court
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| Wed, 06-25-2008 - 1:55pm |
when one's x is a total looney tunes?
I purposely do not have an attorney on retainer to keep my costs down.
So PsychoBoy has been on the rampage since the big to-do at the beginning of June. He changes his tune about what is D4's schedule, he just usurps my time w/S17 under the pretense that they are picking up S17's vehicle- then spends the next 3.5 hours running other errands he could have done on his own time. Last week he was not interested in taking D4 to her summer program as it does not start until 9:30, he's not going to get to work until 10. Suddenly today he's determined that he is going to take her to school. The spin on it is quite amazing. The reality is he wanted to take my weekend last weekend because some contingent of his brother's family appeared without any forewarning. Psychoboy did not ask me for time with D4 or S17, he just called S17. S17 turned him down for the time specified. later, he tried to go over there but they were off to the casino. So Sun I get this rant of a phone message. I ignore it.
Today he's carrying on about how I ruined his Mother's birthday. Excuse me? Her birthday was the 19th and PB had the kids the 18th and they had cake and all at that time. The kids told me. Not once did he ask me for time for that weekend for that purpose. So now this is retaliation for not telling S17 he had to go to his dad's to see the mystery guests. And get this-he has the next 3 weekends in a row with the kids. It isn't like he doesn't have any other time to plan these family things. His parents live with him, my kids see them all the time. But to hear PB's spin you'd think I was the wicked witch preventing them from having any relationship with our kids.
Sigh, so now I await the next legal hassle because he'll have to petition the court to try to change D4's schedule yet again. We just did this in Nov 07, and that stipulation is now part of the problem as it does not address summer activities or what happens when there is no school. The decree is supposed to still be in place on all other issues. But PB chooses to spin this new stipulation as the only authority, flat out said the other paper is worthless. Uh, no, the stip is for one paragraph only.
Ah well, just finally had to vent this somewhere. I was really trying to just ignore him.
QB

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Holy Cow, QB!
We need to put PB, along with rlch's Taz, and momoflittlestar's CP on a boat to China.
I think you have to ride out the boundary of "stick to the schedule" - as you have been doing. and Ignore him - too bad you can't push a button like you can here, right? LOL!! But do that and if he goes to court deal with it then - because that is all you can do.
I think you have handled everything so far very good. I don't think flexibility and understanding work well with him - only to stick to the plan and be civil as needed and avoid him. Weather the storm so to speak?
Hang in there!!
If reservations are being accepted on the boat to China, I would like my X to be included on the manifest. I would also be willing to pay a little extra to hit a typhoon or hurricane on the way there...
Yes, PsychoBoy has his shorts in a knot, not much hope of getting that fixed soon. I am sooooo tired of walking on eggshells around him, I'm sick of the rules only pertaining to me.I'm sick of the constant disruptions to my life.I am not here at his beck and call to only have the kids when PB has nothing better for them to do,in his mind better. The rant phone message was all about how whatever I had planned was nothing compared to his nephew visiting. And he says it like I would also see it that way. He totally leaves out that his brother and brother's wife are visiting too. Why? I have no clue. Everything is a big secret. The man bus, slow boat to Cuba/China, somewhere, anywhere, get this nut on board! I just want a week of peace. Just one week.
The sheriff's deputy has made it clear the only part of the decree that is enforceable is if PsychoBoy skips town when it is clearly not his day. Otherwise, the loopholes are there for him to exploit. And he sure does exploit them.
Thankks for the support guys. I needed a smile today. M is out of town til Fri.
QB
Spew alert! LOL
And it is an extra long bus because we have so many jerks to load it up with.
QB
I am so sorry for you. What a pain!!
What happens if you don't answer the phone or return his call - just have them ready when it is supposed to be his day? And delete a message like that before it plays?
Or does all haydes break loose?
We need to take all the eggshells he has burdened you with and throw them on his lawn!!
LOL
"What happens if you don't answer the phone or return his call - just have them ready when it is supposed to be his day? And delete a message like that before it plays?"
That is exactly what I do. I simply ignore the call and delete the ranting message. Already found out the court ignores the messages unless they are overt threats on my life. What does PB do when I don't respond? Has a meltdown. He actually carries on that I am somehow a crazy person and in the wrong for not taking his crazy calls. If I actually turn off the phone to protect myself from harassment- I hear about it for months. SHE turns off her phone! WOW! Aren't you horrified? SHE didn't call me back and tell me what I wanted to hear! I must be a total demon. He actually said today that the court would see this as proof positive I am off my rocker and he should have whatever custody he wants. He says this stuff with such conviction it takes a moment to realize how whack it is. He sent me an e-mail in which he insists the stipulation added to the decree says the opposite of what it actually says. When I pointed that out he rants "What are you, an attorney?" Uh no, but I am literate.
QB
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