How to get back into dating?
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How to get back into dating?
| Mon, 04-28-2008 - 8:51pm |
Ok,I want to go on a date or two or three...but I am so clueless.
| Mon, 04-28-2008 - 8:51pm |
Ok,I want to go on a date or two or three...but I am so clueless.
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I'm fairly newly back on the dating scene myself - so not a lot of advice here.
So I how do I get started???????
I REALLY really recommend the book "How to get a date worth keeping"..... by Henry Cloud.
The first step the book talks about is observing your own "traffic pattern"... This is where you go and what you do... for a whole week (maybe even two) keep a log of your activity... doing everything the way you normally do them... As you keep this log, then you can see if you go to places where other singles go.. do you need to change your traffic pattern so that you will meet someone? or is your traffic pattern fine how it is?.. for me, when i first read that book.. my pattern was work, church, recovery meetings, grocery store... hmmm, i needed to get out more... then i started going to karaoke with some female friends or by myself... and i started going to all the coworker parties...
I don't want to do Match because my last experience was very disappointing, eveyone lied that I met.
April
Ok. you got my interest.
Good to know about POF, Thanks!!
"wing woman"..... I LOVE the sound of that... hey, TG has a couple single friends if you want to meet one of them... One in particular just turned 30 today... it's his birthday... he's a great friend... cute, funny, has a job.... seems like a stand up guy.. He's asked me if I have a friend, but NOT in a disrespectful way... let me know if you're interested...
Perhaps you and I could go out for some karaoke and invite them to join us... about half way thru the night... that way... no real pressure for the two of you to hit it off.... TG has expressed interest in double dating, too...
let me know.
Loonybunny
I vote AOTA - all of the above.
For sites I like eharmony and match the best - because they have to make an effort and they have to pay. It is a process for sure - patience - think of it as a 6 month project to find a few good ones. But that is better than not meeting any - and I think the process teaches you a lot about people and dating and what you want.
I like Loony's approach too - it gets you out of your usual groove and meeting people.
Interestingly enough in my most recent situation, KarateMan was on eharmony at first - but then I saw him on match - so both of them brought us together. Although it is too soon to tell - we have only had one date so far.
But no matter your venue, keep us posted - we love details!!!!!
and ya know what else... now that i have a boyfriend..hehehehe.... i still use everthing i learned about meeting new people in every situation... from making new friends at work.. to finding new girl friends to hang out with.. ya know, when the boy goes out with his buddies...
I got two new numbers from
Can I make a really outrageous suggestion to get back into the dating scene?
Loony that book sounds great ..... drats my library does not have it.
Have any of you taken part in Speed Dating? What did you think?
Some of the online dating sites here have singles nights parties a few times a year, they sound like a good way to meet people. Although I don't know anyone who has been to one so I have no idea what they are actually like!
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