How the heck do I have a date already?!

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Registered: 07-28-2008
How the heck do I have a date already?!
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Sun, 04-18-2010 - 7:53pm

So, I changed my FB status and tonight I get a little msg from this friend of a friend guy who I met a few years ago casually.


Anyway.. his wife left him six months ago and he's just now getting out again. He recently was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes,started running, and he's lost 50 lbs.


I just took this as some kind of sign.. ya know? Here I am trying to get healthy, working out.. I've lost 10 lbs, I'm a type 2 diabetic also, I work in Endocrinology, I just got dumped..


So he asks me out.. and I said how about we go running? I made it clear I'm not looking for anything but just getting out of the house. I did not tell him though that the thought of a man touching me right now makes me feel like I"m going to vomit. The last thing I want is a date. I just like the idea of hanging out with someone I have tons in common with right now.


He is also going to this Healthy Relationships class on Tuesdays he said I should come to. So odd getting this random msg on FB.. I feel like I'm getting some kind of sign.. ya know?

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Registered: 05-06-2008
Sun, 04-18-2010 - 9:36pm
I like your attitude going in to this. And that you were honest with him about what you want right now. Just have fun.
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Registered: 04-30-2008
Sun, 04-18-2010 - 10:20pm
That's so great for you! You have a running date! Haha...Have fun!

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Registered: 10-30-2004
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 9:26am
Wow!!!
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Registered: 05-13-2009
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 10:25am

Wow. I'm surprised you even said yes after what you have gone through. BUT, as you said, to meet with someone who is going through the same things right now will hopefully be beneficial (and you have no expectations from this).


Honestly, I just don't want this to end up being a rebound by accident. Your emotions are still so raw and unstable. I don't want you to get hurt. I know you can handle yourself, but I care about my girls on here and don't want anything to happen to you.

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Registered: 07-28-2008
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 8:21pm

No worries.. I made it very clear that it wasn't a date, and I"m not dating. However I did say it would be nice to hang out with someone I have so much in common with just to get my mind off of things.


Honestly the thought of even thinking about or touching another man makes me sick right now.

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Registered: 09-15-2008
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 9:08pm
Busymom, you are a wonderful person! Your response made my day. Thanks!
Julie
Julie
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Registered: 09-23-2003
Mon, 04-19-2010 - 9:22pm
Date?? Nah, you are getting out there and having some fun. Go for it. You've made it clear to him, that it isn't a date. No pressure for either of you. Just chill, and enjoy. I think you have an awesome outlook on this, and are handling it wonderfully. :-)