How long to wait before introducing kids to boyfriend or girlfriend?

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How long to wait before introducing kids to boyfriend or girlfriend?
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Thu, 03-14-2013 - 12:30pm

My friend asked me for advice on this the other day but since I don't have any kids, I wasn't really sure what to tell her! Is there some sort of recommended time to wait before you introduce your kids to the person you are dating? I mean, they obiviously see the person briefly when he comes and picks up my friend from the date but that's about it. She's concerned that if she introduces her kids to him and they start hanging out and possibly bonding, then her kids will be hurt if the relationship doesn't work out.

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Registered: 07-30-2012

Could not disagree more. How much does she really know about this guy? She needs to trust him completely and have an intention of the relationship becoming serious before introducing him to her kids

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Registered: 06-02-2013

you should introduce now, don't need to wait

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Registered: 06-02-2013

you should introduce now, don't need to wait

king_dark88

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Registered: 08-09-2012

singleandawesome wrote:
<p>My friend asked me for advice on this the other day but since I don't have any kids, I wasn't really sure what to tell her! Is there some sort of recommended time to wait before you introduce your kids to the person you are dating? I mean, they obiviously see the person briefly when he comes and picks up my friend from the date but that's about it. She's concerned that if she introduces her kids to him and they start hanging out and possibly bonding, then her kids will be hurt if the relationship doesn't work out.</p>

I think it depends upon the ages of the children and if they've adjusted already to life without their father in the home.

As far as introducing the guy to the kids, I would think that she should hold off until a declaration of intention to be exclusive has been made and a decent amount of time has gone by where they both are consistent in that exclusivity.  She should not have him sleeping over with the children in the house until their relationship is well established, that's for sure.

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Your friend is right.  I think it depends on the ages of the kids--the younger the kids are, the more attached they will be.  If they are teenagers, they might not care.  Also I think if their own father is actively in the picture, it probably matters a little less as they will not be looking at this guy as a father figure.  I think a lot of people will say 6 months but of course it varies.  I don't think I waited 6 months to introduce my kids when I was dating my 2nd DH, but then again, I never introduced them to any other guy I was dating at all--I only dated when they were at their dad's.