How many chances can one guy get????

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How many chances can one guy get????
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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 1:55pm
OK as always in my posts its a long one so read on if youve got the time...will try to shorten it up so your eyes dont bleed...

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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 2:30pm

((((((M))))))


I'm really bad about botching up the sayings but there is some saying about letting the pieces fall where they will fall. YOU did not ruin your marriage, it was never your fault, HE did, and so now poor little CP is going have to lie down in the bed with all the fleas that HE made. I know this is hard, watching

~Pacific~
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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 2:35pm

You know what, M?

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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 2:38pm
Good Lord Pac...you knwo he chuckled on the phone and said...isnt it funny how life comes around...I think he meant the Karma bus...I said the exact same thing as far as kids...I said you know CP you made the decision to have multiple children and with children comes financial responsibilities and they dont majically disappear because you are having a bad week...So no i dont feel bad...he didnt feel bad for me when he told me to pack what i could f-ing carry and then moved his tbh in 2 days later. He didnt feel bad when DD needed diapers or dinner or shoes...i dont feel bad for him one bit. As always with him I ma highly suspec to his new woes...they always seem to come when hes up to something no good then BAM i get blindsided with something new. I wish i could say to him...lets make it real easy..sign over your parental rights and ill forget all back and future money. heck he hasnt been paying as it is...whats the difference?? Not liek he sees her as it is either...LOSER!
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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 2:40pm
Thanks for the ducky pats Moon...he almost did push them...but i am making strides and i think im building up a tolerance to him. Like a bad tonic you know youve got to get down to get better...i will push forward and upward...
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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 2:42pm

Sheesh Pac...I should go back and check my spelling!!!!! LOL majically???? What is that????LOL

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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 2:46pm
Don't waste once ounce of energy even STARTING to feel bad for him. I hear a whole new attitude from you! You are not getting sucked into his crap and you know that he has made his bed and gets to lie in it. Besides, who knows if part or all of what he is telling you is true. Don't give an inch and give yourself a big ol' pat on the back.
(((HUGS)))
Steph
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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 2:51pm

Thanks Steph...took a little while but im starting to see through ALL of it. His old lies even sneek up on me and reveal themselves sometimes. Like when the entire disney thing came up...it hit me that she (TBH) was calling him the entire time we were in disney as a family and he took the calls while i was standing there with him. No I dont feel bad anymore...im strong enough now to know i dont deserve an ounce of his crap...he needs to keep all of his fleas and ticks to himself


M

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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 2:57pm

Scary thing is I read it all fine! LOL! Spell check keeps me from looking like I am in 3rd grade, LOL!


and with children comes financial responsibilities and they dont majically disappear because you are having a bad week...


HERE HERE!!! Well said! That's exactly the truth right there.


lets make it real easy..sign over your parental rights and ill forget all back and future money.


That sounds tempting but one step even better is that he signs over all rights AND he still pays. Like you said he's hardly a dad so why not make it easier for everyone, let dd stay with you all of the time and just have pay-pal deposit a couple hundred dollars into your account every month. I know- many will say the dad should be involved unless he's a psychopath but CP's starting to look more and more off his rocker to me. Huge kuddos for you for NOT letting him push your buttons, M...and for sticking to your guns. Your little sweet pea is a lucky little girl to have you for her mommy! Hang in there!


~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Wed, 07-09-2008 - 3:03pm

Isn't it great when you finally reach the point of "thank GOD I am not with him anymore!!"

What goes around comes around and the karma bus is finally making a stop for him!
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Registered: 10-01-2007
Wed, 07-09-2008 - 3:21pm
Amen to that texas_mom.

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