How much would you worry? (graphic)

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Registered: 07-14-2003
How much would you worry? (graphic)
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Fri, 08-05-2005 - 11:53am

OK. I am really embarrassed and worried right now. My bf and I were having sex last night and the condom broke. I don't mean a tear....I mean the top piece was completely torn off and it happened while he was still inside me.

The condom did have a spermicide in it. I am on the pill, but I have only been on it for 2 months. It looks like I should expect to get my period this Sunday.

If you were me, how much would you worry? Should I call my doctor?

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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 8:45am

Wow you girls are smart. So herpes and HIV can both be tested with blood tests? Is there anything else you would test for? Where do you go? To a doctor? Or just to a lab?

TIA!!

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 9:25am
You can either go to your doctor or a clinic. I'm not sure what else gets tested when they test the blood though. I guess if you go to separate doctors you should make sure you are both being tested for the same diseases.

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Registered: 07-31-2005
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 8:44pm

I have to thank all of you for asking all the right questions and answering them honestly. You girls are very smart and proactive. I am coming out of a 15 year marriage so all this dating stuff is all new to me. I have so many questions and now I know where I can find some answers and the support.

So what about diseases that women get that are usually detected by the papsmear? Can guys be tested for these? I know some of them can be treated with antibiotics, but others can not. I have also read that some STDs that are left untreated can develop into early stages of cancer. If a women is tested by papsmear how would a guy be tested?

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 8:51pm
Those are good questions. When I had the bloodtest my midwife also did a papspear, but I'm guessing for a guy they, um, inspect him? I don't know all the answer for sure though. Maybe others will.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 9:00pm

A PAP test detects precancerous and cancerous cells on the cervix - it is a way of screening for cervical cancer.

I found a good link here on STD testing:
http://www.indiana.edu/~health/std.html

And yes, this is great info for all of us. I have learned a lot from you guys, as always.

How does everyone bring up this subject? Do you wait until sex seems imminent? Stories are welcome!!

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 9:12pm

I have a fuzzy idea of how to bring it up, I don't know how it will work in practice. I was thinking around date 2 or 3 if things are going really well and the idea of sex comes up that I would say I want to get to know him better and I also want to both get tested before we are intimate.

I'd love to hear other's ideas and suggestions!

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Registered: 04-11-2004
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 9:45pm

The former lab tech knows the answer to this one!

Stephanie, CL of the Dating as a Single Parent board: http://messageboards.ivillage.com/iv-p

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Tue, 08-09-2005 - 9:52pm
When I got tested my midwife said herpes can be detected in the blood since it's a virus, I think that was the reason, either way it was on the list of what to test my blood for.

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Wed, 08-10-2005 - 11:04am

That sounds like a good approach.

I think probably what would happen with me is that we would get close to sex and I would pull back and say I am not ready. And then we would have the safe sex/when to have sex/exclusivity/relationship discussion a little later.

Of course it is always easier on paper!!

And of course you need to have someone so you have this problem. :-)

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Registered: 02-19-2004
Wed, 08-10-2005 - 11:09am

>>>Of course it is always easier on paper!! ... And of course you need to have someone so you have this problem. :-)<<<

LOL, so true!

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