How my guy fell into my lap, my life

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How my guy fell into my lap, my life
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Wed, 01-23-2008 - 2:33pm

Long post...read at your own will, lol!


I was getting a kick out of reading the "why I don't have a boyfriend" quiz results.

~Pacific~
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Wed, 01-23-2008 - 3:32pm

Your story is what I call fate, synchronicity and that there are no accidents in life.

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Wed, 01-23-2008 - 3:51pm

I love, love LOVE hearing about how you and SEV found each other! This is a great story. And It's great that you are journaling the little things that happen...what a wonderful momento you two will have, looking back at the memories you are putting in writing.


~Pacific~
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Wed, 01-23-2008 - 3:55pm

Thank you :o)


I feel very blessed!

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Wed, 01-23-2008 - 3:59pm
I do believe it was fate. I was starting to finally take the time to properly mourn my mom's death when we met. I had taken care of her for five years while she battled ovarian cancer and my son was six months old when she died. For the first few years after her death I was dealing with her estate and my divorce and raising my son who she was so happy to meet. Then my career had been on total hold for those five years so I was getting that back up. I didnt really get back to "me" until a few years ago. It took that long to get there I guess. When we had our first date he spoke about how he had lost his Dad to a sudden heart attack and had moved in with his mom up until the year prior. He was starting life in the US saving to move her over. One of his sisters already lived here and he was rooming with her. We connected immediately over some of this. To everyone's surprise, his Mom died about a year ago suddenly in the UK a mere few weeks before she was to move over to be with everyone. Now he has lost both parents at 26 and deals with this mourning and moving on with his life. We are doing it together. I feel like through him I am able to feel my own mourning and we are moving through it together in a real but very quiet way. It does feel like we are here at the right time for one another. It is tragic in some ways where we connect but it is honest and we are both in the arts so living honestly and with a healthy heart is important to not just us, but our creative careers I think.
Thanks for your post. It has been a while since I thought about where and how we met and it reminds me of why we are together and how kind fate can be!
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Wed, 01-23-2008 - 4:11pm

. I feel like through him I am able to feel my own mourning and we are moving through it together in a real but very quiet way.


This really touches my heart. What a wonderful gift you are to one another.. you two can truly understand each other. I am so sorry for the losses you have both endured. The rainbow through the storm is that you have each other :o)

~Pacific~
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Wed, 01-23-2008 - 7:12pm
Wow!
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Wed, 01-23-2008 - 10:00pm

Wow, what wonderful stories from everyone! That is just too cool, to hear how some of these relationships started.


It's kinda sad that the story of Hiker and I isn't all that romantic or out of the ordinary. We met online on Match. The only thing funny about it, is that I saw him on there about 2 yrs before we met, and I'd winked at him- because I really liked what he had in his profile... but never got a response back.


After we'd met, and from talking about some of our recent dating histories, I think he was seeing someone at the time (someone he dated for maybe 6 months, who ended going back to her ex, or something like that)- and he probably just deleted the email notification from Match that let him know someone was winking at him, and he never even opened it. He says he doesn't ever remembering getting a wink from me. But I sure do remember picking him out and winking at him!


So when he contacted me, I was excited to know more!!! We'd sent a few emails but went for the phone and meeting up pretty quick. He is not a big emailer and not a huge talker (though we talk on the phone often now... just not always for hours and hours at a time).


We'd met for lunch at a japanese place at the end of August just over 2 yrs ago- because he knew I loved sushi, and he'd always wanted to try it, but never knew what to order. So we did that, and he liked it. After the lunch, he was like "so what do you want to do now?" and that let me know that he wasn't trying to just rush away... but while I was enjoying the date too- I was also keeping an eye on the clock because there was a library book sale in town that day, and I was thinking I would go to it after our lunch date. LOL


So I mentioned it to him, and he thought it sounded interesting, as he'd never been to one before- and he likes to read. So yay- scored some points there with me! lol We went to the library book sale (so geeky of us) and browsed around separately most of the time... and both ended up with a paper grocery sack full of books (for only $3 a sackfull!)- and he actually carried BOTH sacks to the car so I wouldn't have to carry mine! lol


Anyway, we did end our date soon after that- but we had a good time and got to know each other well enough that we were interested in dating more. I found out I could be myself with him and he never once gave me any look or comment that even remotely told me that he thought I was "too geeky" or too ANYthing like the vibe I get from men I don't match with. And to this day, he still doesn't give me that negative vibe... he is just simply accepting of anything I dish out-

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Wed, 01-23-2008 - 10:37pm

Whatever, sister ~ you've GOT a story!!!

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Wed, 01-23-2008 - 10:55pm

Awww - you melted me with that!!!!!!!!

I want one!

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Thu, 01-24-2008 - 1:31pm

Awwww, Shrimps! I was hoping you would chime in here!

~Pacific~