How romantic is your man?

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How romantic is your man?
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 10:07am
Does he still do all the things he used to when you first got together? Does he go out of his way to impress you even sometimes? Does he make you feel like you're the only woman on earth?

If he does these things, what are the things that stick out most? What has he eased up on since you have been together and what do you wish he'd do again?


My own answers....

Shane is still quite romantic. Not outright in your face romantic, but I see it. He still opens my car door and actually hates me to do it myself. I don't think he ever really went out of his way to impress me. His sense of humor was what impressed me most and he never had to make that in my face. It was just natural. Just the way he was in general was impressive. When he looks at me, I do feel like I'm the only woman in the world. He will buy me roses sometimes. He likes to take me out to dinner. But what impresses me most about him is how he still holds my hand while we sit in the living room watching tv or out in public. I think it's sweet. What I wish he'd do is come out of his shell and sing to me. He's very self-conscious about that. He can sing in front of a group, but just to me is hard. He sings so well and plays the guitar and it's so awesome to hear. So if there is one thing I wish he'd do again, it's sing to me. Although I fall apart and look a mess when he's doing it, I love it so much.

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 1:10pm
Does he still do all the things he used to when you first got together?

Pretty much.

Does he go out of his way to impress you even sometimes?

Impress, no. Show me he loves me, yes.

Does he make you feel like you're the only woman on earth?

No. I'm not. I don't make him feel like he's the only man on the earth, either. And I don't strive to.

If he does these things, what are the things that stick out most?

He leaves me post-it notes on the bathroom mirror. He hides my moisturizer (I know, that makes no sense to anyone). He refers to me as "his girl" - like "I don't know if we can go to that - we might have something that day - check with my girl." He buys me new cds. He lights the candles around the house. He's always a gentleman. Guides me through busy places, opens doors, goes down stairs ahead of me if we are going down and behind me if we are going up, stands up when I enter the room, pulls out my chair, the little chivalrous stuff that I love. Cooks my favorite foods. Rubs my feet - :)

What has he eased up on since you have been together and what do you wish he'd do again?

You know, the only thing I can really think of is he used to buy me cards and send me silly e-cards quite often. He doesn't do that so often anymore . . . I'd love to get a card from him for no reason at all. :)

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 3:57pm
Hmm, I guess it depends on your definitions of romance. I think most women would consider it fairly romantic that he calls me every single day at work (even when it's just a quick I love you from his cell phone when I didn't think he'd be able to call because he was going to be in class all day.) He's still constantly affectionate toward me in public and private. He cooks for me, he lights candles just pampers me. Example, the other night I really wanted to climb into the whirlpool tub and he said to go get ready for my bath and then proceeded to light the candles in the bathroom, brought my aroma therapy diffuser in and lit it, poured me a glass of wine and when I said, oh I can get it myself he insisted on doing it for me. And the little chivalrous things like the fact that he cleaned and organized the garage so I can park inside and not have to scape the ice and snow off the windshield or go outside to get in the van in the mornings, even though he has to leave almost two hours earlier than I do and has to scrape his truck every morning. I've tried to tell him I feel badly that he has to do that and that I'd be fine the other way around but to no avail. He says he feels good about being able to do that for me. The way he plans for months to give me the perfect gifts for Christmas (that is, he plans and makes payments and rearranges any splurges of his own on lunch,etc so that he can do that without affecting our budget). And he usually buys me flowers--albeit the bunches at the grocery store rather than the roses from the florist he sent me early on, but still, sweet and I appreciate the "lot less expensive" aspect. And while I don't think he makes me feel like I'm the only woman on earth, he tells me often and make me feel it, that in his eyes I'm the very best woman on earth. And definitely tries to impress me.

One thing I wish he'd do more often that he did more of when we first got together is to play me love songs on his acoustic. But he's looking at going out and playing with a band again now and then and he'll go right back to dedicating our song to me (he makes anyone he plays with regularly learn it LOL) in public.

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 4:44pm
you have a really awesome husband!! :)

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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 6:06pm
Thank you. You know, I think you're right ;)! Actually it was nice because after writing that, I was inspired to call him up and tell him just how great I think he is. Sometimes it's good to have a chance to just reflect on how much we really do think of our guys.
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Thu, 11-11-2004 - 6:57pm
One other thing I wish he'd do, but he's never done it is buy me something sexy. I love pretty lingerie. Sexy bras and panties, negligee's, and other things. It doesn't have to be kinky and nasty, but I'd wear that too...for him.

Last night we were at the mall and passed Victoria's Secret. I love that store and I go in a lot. Not since being pregnant, but I did go in and look every time I'd go to the mall just to see what's new. I asked him if he'd ever go in and buy me something there. He said probably not. He doesn't feel comfortable. I told him it was really something I liked to get as gifts and that he had no reason to feel weird. I guess some men feel like perverts. Let's face it, men ARE perverts! No need to go into a lingerie store to prove it. The women behind the counter are very accomdidating to men coming in. They know they can sell the crap out of some lingerie because most men don't know what to buy.

Shane's big thing is T-shirt and panties or no panties. He likes me in his tees for bed. It's comfortable and I like it and what it does to him, but I really want to dress beautiful for him one night for bed. I'd love to put on something silky, but I'd like it more if he picked it out. You know?

But one more thing he does well for me, is the biggest thing...he loves my son. What could be more wonderful?

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Fri, 11-12-2004 - 9:07am
Does he still do all the things he used to when you first got together? Does he go out of his way to impress you even sometimes? Does he make you feel like you're the only woman on earth?

If he does these things, what are the things that stick out most? What has he eased up on since you have been together and what do you wish he'd do again?

Steve is the most loving man that I have ever met. He is helpful and makes me feel like I am the only woman on this planet. He makes sure that he tells me he loves me everyday and when we are together he cooks for me and make sure that he has things that I like to drink and to eat. I am usually the one that is missing him more but lately he is the one that is telling me that he is missing me before I get a chance and gives me the warm fuzzies on the inside and in my heart. Steve still does things for me that he has always done and I do things that I have always done. I realized yesterday that I am so lucky to have met him and he treats me so well.

lisa j romesburg

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Fri, 11-12-2004 - 12:50pm
Don't have a man right now, actually.

Anyone else???

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Fri, 11-12-2004 - 1:14pm
I don't have one either. Although there is one I like.

I have been in a 2 year "dating/relationship fast" - and I have found myself!! :-)

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Fri, 11-12-2004 - 1:28pm
I have one but he's not romantic. I've never been in a relationship with someone that is romantic. What I think is important about my boyfriend is that he's smart, has a good job (meaning he earns a decent living), cares about family, is an excellent father, is nurturing, has a huge heart, takes very good care of himself (exercises, eats right), lives within his means, he takes his responsibilities very seriously, I enjoy our conversations, he loves to cuddle, the sex is great, and I am very very attracted to him.

It might be nice to get flowers once in a while, but it's not a deal maker or breaker for me. I don't like e-cards and I'm not big on paper one's either. I don't care so much about verbally professing your love all the time. My ex and I always said it but when we stopped meaning it we didn't stop saying it, in the end they were just words. I'd rather know someone loves me by their actions more than by their words.

The one thing I do like is that my boyfriend always drives. He's never been in my car and it's been almost a year. Not that it's a huge thing, but I do like it.

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Fri, 11-12-2004 - 3:50pm
James and I have been together over 3 years now. He isn't by nature what you would call a romantic man. But he is very caring and usually very thoughtful. I've also taught him the importance of giving flowers even though he thinks they're dumb and giving me cards for holidays like Mother's Day even though I'm not his mother and we don't have biological kids together.

Does he still do all the things he used to when you first got together? Yes and then some.

Does he go out of his way to impress you even sometimes? No, I don't want him to impress me and if he was trying to impress me I think I'd know and it would make me uncomfortable. He does make me go out of his way to do nice things just because.

Does he make you feel like you're the only woman on earth? When we're in bed, yup! ;)

If he does these things, what are the things that stick out most? When he folds my laundry for me because he knows I hate doing it! Or when he gets me flowers for no reason except because. OR the best one, when he goes to the store to get beer or something and buys me a Hershey bar because he knows I'm PMSing! ;)

What has he eased up on since you have been together and what do you wish he'd do again?

The only thing is he used to (before we were actually dating) write me love poems. Haven't gotten one since we started really dating.


Tara

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