How to spot a good guy...

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Registered: 09-29-2007
How to spot a good guy...
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Mon, 11-26-2007 - 5:25pm

Okay, since I have some experience here, I thought I would put some thoughts to the web for

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 7:18pm
Very cute, and accurate.
A good man does not value himself above all. A good man will compromise, but does have a side to his story as well. A good man will also not act passive aggressively or play "games"
Liz
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Registered: 12-27-2006
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 7:56pm

ooooh, I wanna play too.


A Good Man may not remember the wedding anniversary, or your birthday the first year you're together, but he somehow remembers the song that was playing during your first real

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Registered: 10-07-2005
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 10:08pm

"A good man opens the door for you. He makes reservations but consults you most of the time. He never orders for you but will place your order after you have told him what you would like to have."


I love this one.


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Registered: 11-25-2007
Mon, 11-26-2007 - 11:04pm

a good man doesnt sneak in conditions to what he will do for you and can take the word No for an answer.


tho take it from me texting and constant communication is not always from a good man.

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 09-11-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 9:33am

A good man will go out of his way to do something for you before you even ask, and not

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Registered: 06-04-2004
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 10:12am

Here are mine...


~A good man does not get threatened by the success of those around him. He is secure in himself while letting others shine. On the same line though- he is aware of his strong points and will not hide them because he knows how valuable and important those strengths are.

~A good man will not belittle others. He is humble and caring, with a nurturing side that is willing to help those around him. He will also care to nurture himself without making his life self-centered and demanding. He will do good things just because it is the right thing to do, not because he will gain something tangible from it.

~A good man will not be threatened by a woman's children. This is whether the children are theirs together, or from a previous relationship. A good man won't feel like he has to compete with them for attention. Partially because a good man will understand the children's needs for attention, and partially because the man will know that his worth is not based on the amount of attention/glory/limelight he receives.

~A good man will stand up for himself. Being nice is good, but being "too nice" is not. He will know when and where to set his boundaries (and know that they don't have to be the same as someone else's boundaries- but respect others' boundaries as well, if they don't match).

It is interesting though... to see how many traits of a good man, is NOT something you could "click" or check off on an internet dating profile. Those aspects

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 11:26am

Great list Zen but where are those guys??

April

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 12:06pm

A good man often doesnt know how good he is and is not always checking out women.


A good man is often a hidden gem. You may have to go out of your way or your "normal requisites" to even find him.

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Registered: 09-01-2006
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 1:06pm

Hey Zen... I LOVE this post!

Rosecolouredspecs
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Registered: 09-29-2007
Tue, 11-27-2007 - 4:33pm

Very nice addition ladies. I'll have to sort through them and add them to my overall list.


As for finding a good man, its hidden in "A good man is" number one. He's the guy you would not normally ask out or immediately feel

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