How was everyone's weekend?

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How was everyone's weekend?
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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 12:27am

Mine has had its ups and downs. The Masked Ball was a blast. Started with being greeted at the door by dancers and strolling violinists, handed a glass of champagne, then herded through to the patio bar area where we had an open bar and jugglers performing. Then we had fireworks, and finally the multi-course dinner with a different wine for each course. During dinner there were opera singers performing a few arias and then the dance band played some dinner music and eventually dance music. I was unable to sell my whole table so we had 2 couples we just met that night plus my 2 single mom friends at our table. M and I danced, and M also made a point of dancing with my friends who did not bring dates. M also convinced the young man at our table to take a whirl around the dance floor with my friend L who is big into ballroom dance.The older couple at our table were there celebrating their 28th anniversary. It was a total surprise for his wife, including a limo and a stay at a very nice, quaint local hotel. Is that guy a keeper or what? M and I ended the night at his place for some bedroom tango, I wandered home finally at 2am.

Pictures attached are:
1. The masks I made for myself and M
2. My dress, the one I bought in Paris
3. Close up of QB's hairdo, spent 4 hours at a spa salon getting a facial, hairdo and makeup
4. My table group

Today kind of sucked. My sewer line got clogged, horribly clogged, and I need to have it dug up so it can be fixed. Meanwhile, the master bath is full of effluent, ugggh!!! The problem is most likely from the remodeling. The guy who helped with the demo work didn't cover the drain when he knocked out the walls in the shower. Dust and debris most likely has been sitting in the trap and when the tile guy was working in there it must have gotten knocked loose and wound up in the sewer line. It is totally blocked. And I made this great dinner for my kids and M, but it was a bit discouraging to have the sewage smell wafting through the house.

QueenBun

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Mon, 01-21-2008 - 11:27pm

DASHING???!!! aw gee thanks moon! After growing up with my two brothers and having a wife of 20 plus years who did not let me know how she appreciated me .. your words really touches me.. thanks. My self perception is that one of a dorky, too-big-hat type of guy. Regardless I DID have fun along with CNDG.

Wow.. VARSITY at 14?!! You must be proud! That must be totally reinforcing for HER in that hard phase of adolescence to puberty/teenhood.

SOOOOO Kewl that you and SEV are going GREAT... ! thanks for sharing! LOVE postiveness!!!

Hugs,
Mark





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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 8:33am
Getting in late in the game here for this post. You look so gorgeous in your gown. Some women were just meant to wear gowns I think. You have the statuesque thing going on that makes a gown work! I have to wear gowns a lot for performing since that is what I do and it is like being on constant carb watch over here.
So as I have intimated in my posts my weekend was not so good but I am seeing the light at the end of the tunnel. My son is fibbing a lot and for very little reason and also very badly so we catch him every time. It is hard to deal with and kind of out of nowhere. I suspect there is some fighting or arguing or something going on at his Dad's that is unhinging him because this happened last year a bit also. Also my son's stepbrother is causing trouble and teasing a lot and I think it takes a toll on my little guy. I made him do chores all weekend but it made me feel like mean mommy and I let bf help out a lot. It stresses me when my son is grounded and tensions are high because we live in a small space and I work here all weeekend coaching young violinists and it just seems there isnt enough space for such drama.
He was on probation yesterday kinda after the weekend of shame lol and he did much better but then again, of course he did since he surely didnt want to continue the punishment.
When I came out from teaching this is the punishment scene I entered. And believe me we have tried talking, rationalizing, writing exercises, chores, etc because he has been testing us on and off for about two weeks. So I walk in and my bf is totally calm and typing on his computer. I asked what was happening and my son says " I am emptying out everything in my closet because that is my punishment" I thought "huh?" and said nothign because I got this look like "I got this. " from bf. The closet is huge with lots in it so that was a lot for him to do. Then he came back in and the bf says " Now, carefully, put everything you still want back in. Stuff you dont is going to charity tomorrow. Separate clothes and toys please." My son looked horrified and said "THAT is my punishment?"
and bf says " It isnt about your closet or the stuff in it, thats going to take you a long time - it is about what you think about while you do it"
I think I might have fallen in love with my grandmother or something. He is great and I am relieved.
This week is a new week thank god. Wish us luck!!
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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 8:50am
" It isn't about your closet or the stuff in it, that's going to take you a long time - it is about what you think about while you do it"- I love that line.
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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 9:19am
I know, right? I would have never thought of that. Who knows WHAT he thought about during those hours but the best part is, he has a clean closet and we DID take the stuff to charity yesterday...and the other thing is ( and I honestly dont think bf could have predicted this one) while he was cleaning out the closet and in punishment he kept finding little things from when he was younger that clearly showed him how loved he is and was. He kept finding them and calling out and we decided to make him put them in a pile and we all went through them once his chore was completely done last night. NIce....So it ended ok and I have to say that normally when he is grounded we are both more likely to end it up miserable so this was a vast improvement.
Having said all of those nice warm fuzzy things, if he fibs to me today I am going to lose my mind...lol
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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 10:48am

wow, what an awesome step parent you have,

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 10:53am

Yes, Mark, DASHING!!!

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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 11:15am

I am really late posting here but I had take a time out before I posted about my weekend!!

April

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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 11:37am

Awww you are so kind mnmoon70!

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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 11:48am

Ah the old child-leaving-their-assignment-until-the-last-minute trick eh?

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Tue, 01-22-2008 - 11:51am
Thats so funny because my bf is from the UK...lol
He told me once his Dad made him write the first act of a play or a speech or something twenty times and he checked it for mistakes and made him do it over if there were any for a punishment. He said he made the mistake of asking why he was having to do this and his Dad had said to him that it wasnt about the act of writing. It was about the time it would take and the thinking he would be doing during that time. It is a great lesson I think.
We really do have such a great kid but he is testing and we have tried rationalizing with him about everything and it was getting us nowhere last week. My Dad actually has a degree in child development and said this is the age they do all of these things and to just stop the endless rationalizing and lay down calm but firm consequences in one sentence or less. Bad attention is as good as good attention apparently for some reason in these cases and he thinks the interaction is holding up the progress. I had him do a lot of chores this weekend because he made the mistake of giving me sass about not having done his sheets. So we taught him how to do laundry and he did every stitch of it in the house. Sounds like we are running a military camp over here but the truth is I think it was a productive weekend in terms of reclaiming some control over the house. I think I needed to reassess how much my son is capable of helping me too because he can now at nine do dishes, some laundry, and basic dog grooming for our English Mastiff. This should help me feel less stressed trying to handle everything myself!! Time for an allowance maybe? I dont know -
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