Hump Day "date"

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Hump Day "date"
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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 1:33am

OK not quite a "date" and it's past Hump Day but thought I'd share....

Wow… talk about baggage! And I don’t care! LOL. I had a “date” with this 45(?) yr old woman (I just turned 54) whom I met at a mutual friend’s birthday party. From talking with her at the party it was obvious she was not relationship material because she is still grieving the loss of her newborn daughter along with the divorce of her new husband 9 months ago because she could not get over her grief.

Regardless I wanted to do something with women that I like hanging with because until I meet “the One” I want to get out. So we finally arranged a time/place/event to get together (I explicitly told her that this is NOT a date which she acknowledged by telling me that she is not ready to date anyone).

We went to a free city park bluegrass concert where I brought picnic food, chairs, blanket, and my dog and she brought drinks and dessert. At the end I really felt she can be the One. She joined the Peace Corps at 40 but had to go back to take care of her 20 some year old son who had to be hospitalized for a schizophrenic break. He is now 25 and living with her. She is still struggling with her grief and her job as a fundraiser for a non-profit. She is training for a 10Km on top of that.

What I love about her (besides the fact she is very beautiful – she models for a local department store) is that she is a Big Sister, been a Peace Corps volunteer, a non-profit worker, low-key, kind, likes my dog (who doesn't? LOL) and easy to talk with.

Ah well. It’s all good for regardless I have made a nice emotional connection with her and that’s good enough for now. We parted with a hug.

I hope to do something else with her.

Mark

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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 9:51am

I think it is great that you are getting out there so much and really having a good time. It is "dating" even if you don't want to call it that (lol). You seem nice, caring, smart and full of energy. I'm sure the right one will be along for you.

Priscilla whose really not getting out there too much.

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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 10:02am

Thanks Priscilla. Sometimes I do feel that even though I do things that I like with women that I like, I come away feeling empty because they are not "the One."

I choose the activities because regardless of whom I'm with I still enjoy myself. However I realize that I'm not an activity person, I'm a relationship person. It is whom I'm with more so than what I do.

This past weekend I did not feel that way though. I think it's because I got my relationship fix by doing a bike ride with my son yesterday as well. I love doing Father-Son stuff like that. We had a great time.

Mark

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Mon, 08-13-2007 - 10:31am

Hey Mark - it sounds like you are forming new friendships left right and center! That is fabulous. I know what you mean about being a relationship person and feeling a need to fulfill that desired connection. But you just never know when something loike that might happen. For example - with your friend Kathleen, you might find it easier to just relax and be yourself around her since you do not think she is in a "relationship" frame of mind. That way she gets to know the "real" you and you just never know......anything is possible.
You seem very self aware and you seem to realize that you need to hold yourself back at times. You seem like a really great guy to me and someone is going to jump on your band wagon very soon. Just keep doing what you're doing!

Can't wait to hear all about your outings...!
Rose

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 1:02am

Weekend is over. A couple of updates. I got to see an old friend, Joanne, whom I dated a couple of times off Match almost 4 yrs ago. She is a single mom of 4. One is 22 and married. The others range from 15, 12, and 6. I enjoy her positive attitude and sense of humor. We got together to walk our dogs and have breakfast afterwards. It was nice to reconnect after such a long time.

I got inspired by Rebecca/rlch and called my Myspace FWB. I got together with her this afternoon and it was a really nice physical/sexual time though I find myself feeling that lack of a true relationship connection.

I was wanting to get together with Kathleen this weekend but she emailed me back how she is going through a really rough time. I offered to just listen, to witness to support her and even though she appreciated the offer (her comment, a man who listens is rare) she really did not want to talk about it. I called up a florist and had them send flowers to her place of work (the only address I have of her) for tomorrow. I used a quote I had off a Zen prayer: "May your soul be at rest. May your heart remain open. May you realize your own true nature. May you be healed. May you be a source of healing for the world." and did not put a name on it. I did not want to freak her out by receiving flowers from someone who only went on one "non-date" with.

Ok .. time for bed. Working out both at the gym and with my FWB wore me out!

Mark

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 9:52am

Well- Im glad you had a nice physical/sexual afternoon! :)

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 1:00pm
I think at this point a FWB would be OK with me. I just don't have any friends that can offer benefits. sigh...
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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 2:53pm

I'm offering my Benefits to those in need.

Mark




Edited 8/21/2007 2:56 am ET by mhash
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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 2:59pm
You crack me up. Since you are all the way across the country I don't think it would work. But thanks for the offer ;o)
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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 3:34pm

Heyyyyyy... I offer ALL kinds of benefits. e-Motional benefits is one example. Of course do not underestimate the power of the Internet as well.

Mark who is almost willing to hop on a plane to benefit womankind

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 9:43pm
That was really nice of you to send the flowers.