Hump Day "date"

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Hump Day "date"
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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 1:33am

OK not quite a "date" and it's past Hump Day but thought I'd share....

Wow… talk about baggage! And I don’t care! LOL. I had a “date” with this 45(?) yr old woman (I just turned 54) whom I met at a mutual friend’s birthday party. From talking with her at the party it was obvious she was not relationship material because she is still grieving the loss of her newborn daughter along with the divorce of her new husband 9 months ago because she could not get over her grief.

Regardless I wanted to do something with women that I like hanging with because until I meet “the One” I want to get out. So we finally arranged a time/place/event to get together (I explicitly told her that this is NOT a date which she acknowledged by telling me that she is not ready to date anyone).

We went to a free city park bluegrass concert where I brought picnic food, chairs, blanket, and my dog and she brought drinks and dessert. At the end I really felt she can be the One. She joined the Peace Corps at 40 but had to go back to take care of her 20 some year old son who had to be hospitalized for a schizophrenic break. He is now 25 and living with her. She is still struggling with her grief and her job as a fundraiser for a non-profit. She is training for a 10Km on top of that.

What I love about her (besides the fact she is very beautiful – she models for a local department store) is that she is a Big Sister, been a Peace Corps volunteer, a non-profit worker, low-key, kind, likes my dog (who doesn't? LOL) and easy to talk with.

Ah well. It’s all good for regardless I have made a nice emotional connection with her and that’s good enough for now. We parted with a hug.

I hope to do something else with her.

Mark

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Mon, 08-20-2007 - 11:37pm

I am cautious about appearing to court her. The thought doing that just came to me. She did find out and emailed me a nice thank you. I tried calling her back but got her voice mail and just left a msg saying that I told the florist I wanted it to be anonymous and that I hope she would be better. I plan on not contacting her for a week and check in the weekend.

In the meantime, I'll be meeting the MySpace coffee date that I cancelled on last week for about 1/2 hr before she goes off to work and Hawaii.

Mark

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:48am

I was lucky to find mine! lol

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:49am
You are cracking me UP "to help womankind", hehehe!

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:51am
Im glad she knows its you. I think i forgot to post earlier that i woudl find it creepy if someone sent me flowers w/o a siggie. BUt thats water under the bridge.

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 2:59am

Yeah womankind... I did not want to include only gal starting over... spread the wealth ya know *wink*

Mark

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:00pm

And I was feeling so special (LOL). You're fun!!!!

Glad you let the gal know that you sent the flowers. It is a bit weird when you don't know where something came from.

Priscilla

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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:07pm
OK Priscilla. You like roses right? This time I will sign the card... xxxooo Sean.
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Tue, 08-21-2007 - 1:09pm
If you had sent me flowers, I would have felt so weird and cornered that I would not have responded to your call. What happened to leaving her alone and just being friends? You are definitely NOT giving her space and more the potential to run in the other direction. I really caution you to chill out and really not have any contact with her for a little while. Otherwise I guarantee she's a goner. Be careful getting too caught up again.
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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 12:13am

Keeping distance.

I got a couple of emails from Kathleen. One thanking me for the flowers and the other in response to my voice mail saying that she is still in this time of difficulty and need to withdraw from socializing. I guess it is good that it is not about me and she did not say I overstepped any boundaries which I was concerned about. I responded via email wishing her the best.

I figure it'll be a while (more than a couple of weeks) before I hear back if at all. I know she is on the hook to organize a big event at the end of Sept plus training for her 10 km run sometime just before then.

I got to meet my Myspace acquaintance. It was very nice even though I did not feel any sort of "relationship" connection with her. I knew that from the brief time I met her before. It was nice spiritual connection and we parted with the intent of keeping in touch. She is moving back to her home in Hawaii next week so I won't be seeing her or have much contact with her anyway.

I keep encountering, communicating, and meeting great women whom I know are not "The One" but in the meantime I feel it's all good.

Mark

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Wed, 08-22-2007 - 11:40am

that book I read "How To Get A Date Worth Keeping" by Henry Cloud.... is for men and women... So yes, you would do well to meet 5 new women a week...too. (okay 5 is a bit much.. but how about 2-3) A WEEK...

It is not about finding the ONE.. but more about BEING.... good luck.

Loonybunny