Hurt Again

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Hurt Again
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Fri, 04-18-2008 - 7:39am

This time by a guy I thought I had a possibility of a relationship with. A man I have know for a year and thought I knew well. I guess I didnt know him that well. In a way it hurts and is shocking to find out the truth about a guy. But in a way I have been hurt so many times that its just another time. I got out of an abusive relationship just 2 months ago and I can feel a thick skin growing on me. Now I am seeing the world differently and not looking only at the good in people.

So I have decided that the most important thing for me right now is finishing up my education and working on my life while putting relationships aside. Dating will just be dating and thats it. I dont want a relationship right now.

Laurie :-(

anonymous
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: tsunami2008
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 8:41am

Sorry to hear that things did not work out - it is always a bummer when you think something will work or you get attached and then they don't - even when you are the one who has to make the decision for the breakup. HUGS!!!

"So I have decided that the most important thing for me right now is finishing up my education and working on my life while putting relationships aside."

I think you are on the right track with that. What are you studying? Do you have long to go?

I am a big believer in growing the roses in your own garden - it makes you happy and it makes you beautiful - you don't depend on other people for that and you end up with a full life that has higher standards and the leverage to attain those standards.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
In reply to: tsunami2008
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 8:47am

Thanks CL. I tend to put all my eggs in one basket....a bad idea.

Its a computer science degree. I have 31 credits left and then I can get out of my current job from hell. I am an air traffic controller and the stress is killing me. Yesterday we had two incidents and one close call. If I still drank I would have been drinking like a fish yesterday. But I run instead and went running with my daughter. A much better choice.

These boards have been my savior for the last 2 months. If it werent for the boards I would still be in an abusive relationship.

Thanks,

Laurie

anonymous
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Registered: 05-13-2005
In reply to: tsunami2008
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 9:24am
Wow - an air traffic controller - that is amazing. But I can see how that would be stressful - OMG - it is so challenging and often irritating to fly these days - the flights are full, people get bumped more frequently and the bags are often delayed, flights cancelled or delayed - on and on.
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Registered: 08-08-2007
In reply to: tsunami2008
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 2:14pm

(((((Laurie)))))


I'm sorry...


Wish I could say or so more! I will just send you virtual chocolates and know you are not alone.


Your wise to focus on yourself and your needs right now. It will get better!!!!


Hugs!

~Pacific~
~Pacific~
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Registered: 12-27-2006
In reply to: tsunami2008
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 6:00pm
New here but sending {{{HUGE HUGS}}}

~~Tiny


You said you couldn't stand to see my heart broken...so when you broke it, did you close your eyes?

~Karen
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: tsunami2008
Fri, 04-18-2008 - 6:44pm
Aw darling, so sorry.