I am losing my sense of humor - LOOK
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| Thu, 06-21-2007 - 5:59pm |
This one is 43 and never married and has sort of poor blurry pix. He is agnostic which really doesn't jive either.
But he sends this note:
Enjoyed your profile and thought we might share some of the same attitudes. If this finds you able to respond (not involved with someone) then I look forward to hearing from you.
Okay, excuse me, but I really don't ENJOY being on the singles sites. I mean, if you are single and wish you were in a relationship that is not really ideal - although you could be positive and say you enjoy communicating with a wide variety of people that the internet happens to drag in. :-)
So why, if I am on the singles site, would I be with someone, and if I was with someone why would I contact him?
What a DOPE!
I feel like an executive human relations department that is trying to place the right person in the job of the vice presidency - the job of my SO is important!!
The one last week that wanted to take me to the swingers place was just over the top - especially since his profile made it sound like he is looking for a partner for life.
Maybe I am losing my sense of humor with the process? At any rate, he got the delete key.

Okay - but here is a great one - the guy has a nice pic and positive profile and writes the nicest note - short but sweet:
"great profile and your soo pretty"
So I wrote - thanks - that was sweet of you to write. To which he writes back,
"just being honest - hope you had a wonderful day - would you like to chat - maybe we can meet and become friends if you like?"
So yes he gets a chat.
They just have to be nice and not appear to have big issues. At least to me!
"Negative people have no place in dating and you can tell the negativity from the profile or at least right off the bat usually."
That is it - you hit the nail on the head. I want someone positive!! And yes - you can tell this right off the bat!
Another spin to this is that he has encountered at least one woman on a singles site that is in a relationship and got burned.
My online experience has been that I found a lot of women who are still partly in a relationship or just getting over one.
Mark
I can't remember if Match tells you how long a person has had an active profile, or if he's seen yours before, maybe. My take though is that he knows that some people start dating a few, and then weed them out, and by the time they actually take down their profiles, they've really found someone to be in a relationship with. He's probably been a victim of that before, and sent emails only to get replies of "well, gee, thanks, but I already found someone"... I think people tend to keep their profiles active in case it doesn't pan out, but when they aren't truly actively dating.
As for finding the right candidate for the job- yes, it is important, but it can also be fun, too. DOn't lose that fun when thinking of all of these interviews- one at a time, (or four or seven or whatever) you'll weed them out until the best possible candidate is nominated for the position!
Good luck, and keep smiling!
Moody, who sorta likes the job references
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