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Registered: 09-28-2008
I am new here
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Sun, 09-28-2008 - 6:23pm
Hello! I am new here. Nice to meet you all. I am a divorced mom to four daughters ages 10, 8, 6, and 15 months. I am in a relationship now with a man who is 37 (I am 29) never married and no kids. We've been together four months. I haven't introduced him to the kids yet. I figured it would be nice to talk to other women who are in the same type of situations. Dating again is new and I would not have even considered it (I had been single since just around the time the baby was conceived) but this guy is really special. Anyhow hello to all.
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Sun, 09-28-2008 - 6:30pm

Welcome aboard.

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Sun, 09-28-2008 - 7:01pm
Thanks for the welcome. They can be pretty darn cute when they want to be LOL! BF definitely understands the kids come first but we do work together so even if things are going on and I can't go out we see eachother at work (of course we also decided that no-one at work knows we are dating due to the drama it can cause). I was immediately struck by his response to my decision that he not meet the kids right away. He didn't take it as a personal attack and admired my protection of them because his mom didn't have the same view. See if my heart gets broken I'll live but I don't want anyone to break their hearts by walking away. Also he and I are both big planners- not spur of the moment people. That's kinda perfect given the situation LOL!
My parents were divorced too but we had a close relationship with both. My stepdad is awesome though. He made my wedding dress when I got married and treats my kids just as well as his grandkids. My dad lives with my daughters and I so they get grandpa as a male influence. Your story definitely gives me hope.
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Registered: 08-28-2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 12:06pm

Welcome to our bouard, Jenilouise!


It is nice to have you here. I'm looking forward to hearing more about you and your kids! How long have you been dating your b/f? Where did you meet him? He sounds very understanding of your situatiuon and patient which is great? Do you have a nickname for him we can use here?


Welcome again!!

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Registered: 07-19-2008
Mon, 09-29-2008 - 12:17pm
Welcome to the board!!! Your girls are just super cute and I could eat them up. I have a DD that's almost 10 and my DS is 7. I have to plan things too most of the time.
I'm glad that your BF didn't take it as a personal attack. Most guys I've meet do. My guy now EHS(electrician Hot stuff)just sorta meet the kids no planning behind it. But that works for me, might not work for everyone else.
Glad to have you hear. The ladies are great and offer the best advice.
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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 11:21pm
Thanks for the welcome! I can't wait to brag about my girlies. LOL! They are four really awesome kids.
Hmmm what can we call him? Maybe Duck fan? He has two degrees from UofO and is a huge Ducks fan. LOL! I met him at work. Just to clarify upfront he is not my supervisor and there is not a no fraternization policy at my work. That said most people at work don't know we are dating because we don't feel it is any of their business LOL! I've been there just over 6 months now and he has been there almost a year. We've been dating four months this week. He's eight years older than me which I think is a good thing because he's a heck of a lot more mature than anyone I have ever dated. We never fight- we never raise our voices. We talk everything out. It's awesome. He has a great sense of humor, pretty eyes, is stable, sexy, and intelligent. He has his flaws and so do I but we complement each other quite nicely (even if he is about 6 foot 3 and I am barely 5 foot nothing LOL)
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Tue, 09-30-2008 - 11:41pm
Thanks for the welcome. I like your nickname for him- that is cute. My kids can be cute and they have to be or their antics may have me looking for a traveling band of gypsies to run away with LOL! My oldest just turned 10 on the 16th. It made me feel very old. Of course she is only an inch shorter than me and wears a size 7 shoe where I wear a 4.5 so that didn't help.
We have been planning the big meeting for a while but haven't done it yet. We are thinking before the holidays because he may be coming to meet my family in California at Christmas. That is really exciting for me because I know they will LOVE him. He met my little brother today. They seemed to hit it off.
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Registered: 10-08-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:13pm

hi there!!! I'm new here also and I felt compelled to respond..... My situation is very similar to yours. I have a 7 yr old, almost 5 yr old, 3 yr old and a 2 yr old. I have known my boyfriend for nearly a year now and we have been seriously dating for 7 months this week. I am 25 and divorced

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Registered: 08-28-2008
Wed, 10-08-2008 - 1:32pm

He's eight years older than me which I think is a good thing because he's a heck of a lot more mature than anyone I have ever dated.

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Registered: 09-28-2008
Sun, 10-12-2008 - 9:15pm
That is fantastic Jeannie! Actually since Ducks fan is more than likely spending Thanksgiving with us he'll be meeting the kids soon. We've been together only four months and known each other for seven months. It is nice to meet someone in a similar situation.
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Sun, 10-12-2008 - 9:18pm
Oh I'll be making another post in a bit after I catch up. We had an interesting weekend. Something about that maturity is way sexy isn't it? It attracts me to him even more.
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