I am such an idiot

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Registered: 10-10-2007
I am such an idiot
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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 11:51am

Okay--so I did go in slowly with Countryboy, waiting to see how things go and they went!

April

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Registered: 05-13-2005
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 12:19pm

I think it is good that you snooped! Good girl!!

But I would not have sent him ANY note - and I would not have answered any more calls. But I am sure you felt REALLY good typing it and sending it - and your feelings matter more than anything else here.

For what its worth, I would not be surprised if he denies it or spins it around to make it look like your fault.

If nothing else, this shows us all we have to date and date until they want to be exclusive - especially when they are on OLD. It is just the nature of the beast.

He was really flaky off and on. And I think we thought it was the job thing - but apparently it was more than the job thing.

My dear, you are great the way you are and this is his loss. You will find a very stable SEV very soon who is very into you and who will not want you seeing anyone else - he will want you all to himself and he will call when he says he will call (and maybe more too!) and he will want to see you on a regular basis. Make this your goal, settle for nothing less and you will get it - as all do here.

Bye bye countrydude - you stink!! LOL!!

Maybe you should have made him a church sign "God says you shall not use April's computer to contact other women on POF" - LOL!!

One more motto - maybe I should add this one to the affirmations thread?

"GUILTY UNTIL PROVEN INNOCENT!"

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 12:25pm

Oh Sh*t April! Wow. Im so sorry. That would INFURIATE me. Completely .. & i think enough to next someone. You showed a TON of TRUST to leave him alone in your home. & he freaking spent that time chatting w/ other women on a SINGLES SITE!?

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Registered: 10-09-2005
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 12:30pm

You are not an idiot.

Cat
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Registered: 09-11-2007
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 12:48pm

April,


YOU ARE NOT AN IDIOT!!!

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Registered: 10-24-2006
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 1:18pm
You are not an idiot. You tried to show him you trust him, want him, are ready to share your life with him and he back burnered you. I really really feel you need to next this guy. Based on things you've shared about him, I think he's going to keep treating you this way. (((HUGS))) there is much MUCH better out there. Trust yourself to know you deserve the best. And he is not doing that.

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Registered: 08-08-2007
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 1:27pm

Maybe you should have made him a church sign "God says you shall not use April's computer to contact other women on POF" - LOL!!


Yes!! I love it :o)


ITA with West- If this was me he would not get the time of day from me...not worth my time, attention or thought, But I know it feels good to write and it is your feelings not ours :o)


The guy is a JERK and you are sweet, kind and awesome. The better you get him out of your life the better. Now go and find that SEV...he's out there!


~Pacific~
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Registered: 10-10-2007
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 1:32pm

Thank you guys!

April

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Registered: 08-10-2007
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 2:12pm

OMG April... are you dating my ex-bf?

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Registered: 03-15-2004
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 2:30pm
Good for you! Stay strong .... he already was given one pass ... maybe 2. But NO MORE! THIS one you have positive proof of! Errrrrrr!

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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 3:14pm

How funny--Countryboy has lived in multiple places--none in Indiana but he works in Indiana sometimes for his job--he left Tennessee when he was younger...He did live in Kalamazoo, Vicksburg and Fenville--all even closer to Indiana than GR is...it would be a hoot if he was the same guy?!

April

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