I am such an idiot

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Registered: 10-10-2007
I am such an idiot
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Fri, 03-21-2008 - 11:51am

Okay--so I did go in slowly with Countryboy, waiting to see how things go and they went!

April

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Registered: 08-10-2007
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 3:25pm

No, his were GMF... but that is crazy since gmf is in construction also... maybe they are long lost brothers!

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Registered: 09-25-2004
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 6:42pm
Dump him. Dont waste time writing to him.
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Registered: 09-21-2006
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 8:02pm

Sorry you had to experience Mr. Insensitivity. Great big red flag in that he couldn't do his resume at the library. Kudos to you for being willing to trust the guy in your house, alone, on your personal computer. Regaining the ability to trust is a biggie for many of us. Hi blew it, he is not relationship material, now or ever. NEXT! Don't let this guy put you back in your shell. The next guy may actually be someone who can be trusted.

I would be irate, but I wouldn't have sent him any kind of notice. You can't teach emotionally selfish, stupid people how to behave- that was their parents' job. My x would use my computer to look at porn late at night after I had gone to sleep. I, like you, just happened to look at the history to find a site I neglected to bookmark and discovered my history had been erased at 2am. I changed the password and boy did he get pissed. I got the "you don't trust me therefore you have a problem" speech. When someone can't see their behavior from another person's point of view, they are the one with the problem. You are better off to have figured this out now before you got more emotionally invested in this loser.

QueenBun

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Registered: 10-10-2007
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 8:32pm

I already decided to NEXT him--no waiting around just to be dumped for the next good-time girl to come along.

April

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Registered: 08-23-2006
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 8:51pm
Yikes April, that is horrible!!
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Registered: 04-17-2003
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 11:56pm

April, you are NOT an idiot! He is a liar, a player and total loser. Don't waste one more minute or ounce of energy on him! You deserve much better and you know it. Just remember that 6 month probation rule!!

It took me 6 years to find someone I think is genuine and has integrity. You just have to weed out the bad ones and that takes time. Don't ever compromise and don't ever put more effort into them than they put into you.

Hang in there and you will find your Sev or Hiker when the time is right. You will appreciate them alot more after dealing with all the losers we run across!
Steph

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