I called him

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I called him
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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 1:40pm

If any of you remember, I met someone for lunch on Saturday. I liked him, he liked me. He asked me out for that night and since I wasn't busy I said sure. I was really tired later and called to cancel and suggested maybe he call to meet for lunch or something. I haven't heard from him since. I don't know if that means he is just busy or if he thought I wasn't interested and was blowing him off. He is the first guy I have been out with that I would actually like to see again so I went ahead and gave him a call today at lunch.

I got his voice mail and just left a message "Hi, this is Priscilla. Hope your week is going well and you're enjoying the nice weather. I just wanted to see how you are doing and make sure you knew that I wasn't blowing you off the other night. I really was just tired. Hope to hear from you soon." That was it. I don't know if that is weird or not. I'm not a guy-calling kind of girl. But since not calling hasn't really helped in any way, I figured it couldn't hurt. If he wasn't going to call anyway, this won't change that. If he is busy, he may think it was a nice jesture. Or he may think I'm a total loon. In any event, I did it. It is done. Can't change it now and I don't feel bad about it (unless he is scared away by it).

So any feedback is welcome. I won't be calling again and the ball is most definitely in his court now. Hopefully he bats it back ;o)

Priscilla

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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 2:08pm

I think what you did was perfect. Just in case he had any mixed signals, you straightened that out and now the ball is in his court. Good luck with things and keep us posted!!!

~Dani~

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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 2:43pm

I got my book "He's just not that into you" last night.... so forgive my frame of mind... but if he's into you it wouldn't matter if you call or don't call. Trust me... he's not waiting by the phone wondering if you blew him off or if you'll call. If he's interested, then he will call. Even if he thought you blew him off... he'd still call if he's interested.. Guys like the chase.

I don't think calling him was a bad thing... I just don't think it actually helps... On the back of the book the author Greg states that if a guy is busy, and he's into you... then calling you will be the bright spot of his day... he wouldn't be too busy to call.

At this point, wait and see. The ball IS in his court. But you don't have to put all your new dating eggs in one basket. You can still make your own plans, meet new men at a coffee shop, browse online profiles... etc...

One last point, YOU are worth calling and if he doesn't see that then it IS HIS LOSS. Welcome to dating... keep us updated.

LB

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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 3:03pm
Saturday wasn't that long ago. If he's interested in you, then calling him once is not a bad thing.
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Wed, 03-14-2007 - 11:58pm

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This could have been excerpted from "The Rules" rather than "He's Just Not That Into You."

I think one call, leaving things in his court ultimately, isn't a bad thing necessarily, but I agree that if he was going to call, he will whether you call him or not.

I also agree that he wouldn't have thought you were blowing him off, but let's wait and see now what happens.

Moody, still trying to follow the rules-but of life, not dating!


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Thu, 03-15-2007 - 9:09am

I have just not been out with anyone that I had any interest in seeing again. Since he had already asked me out again, I thought he must like me. Also I have blown off so many to this point, he may have experienced that some too. I don't know. Hard to know from a guys perspective.

Thanks for the feed back.

Priscilla