I can't concentrate

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I can't concentrate
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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 8:05pm

Yikes, I have school work due and since the date with AW I can't think of anything else.

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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 9:12pm

CHEERS to you my friend!

"Waiter, I'll have what she is having"!! LOL!!

But you don't think you are going to get away with a PUNY paragraph such as that -we want the WHOLE banana - the date story - like what did you wear, where did you go, how did it end, has he called, would you date him again, what color was the sky and how hot was it outside?

LOL!!

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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 9:58pm

Okay.

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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 10:10pm
I'm with West..."I want want your having!"
Rosecolouredspecs
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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 10:43pm

That was very detailed - good job! It sounds like you had fun - and what a date after not dating for 6 or 7 years. You should be a romance novel writer. I kind of like that you made him nervous during dinner!! And I was cracking up about you not knowing what he looks like and a 70yo pulls up in the first truck - that is pretty funny!!

Do you realize that if he is online he could be doing this with more than one date? Just a caution - because I would scream if he did that after almost having sex with me - I have learned the very hard way to clarify that before hand especially if I want a relationship. Just something to give you to think about since you haven't dated in so long - but if you don't care and you are having fun because you haven't dated in so long then don't mind my .02 - I just don't want to see you come back upset because it was a fun tryst for him and he wants to keep dating and running out his match account like Mark is doing on EH!! I care about YOU!! :-) The whole online thing has really changed the way dating is now versus before when we were growing up and you assumed that you were with someone just because you kissed. It is hard for me to type that because I know you are so happy right now and I don't want to rain on your parade - I hope you don't get mad - but I would feel bad if I didn't say anything and then you got bummed out.

Hopefully he is the old fashioned sort and is already dreaming of the second date and doesn't have a clue about what I am talking about!!

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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 10:52pm

I really appreciate your caring thoughts.

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Mon, 06-23-2008 - 11:00pm

Okay - PHEW!! But maybe make him wait a bit so it is not so awkward and you want to date only each other?

It surely sounds like he is not a player, though. I think your instincts are good. But it is the idea - that his profile is still up and he could be getting emails from other women - that would flip me out. I guess I always like to cross my Ts and dot my Is and make sure they want me enough to shut that bloody thing off!! LOL!! And they respect you more that way I think plus then everyone is on the same page. It took me so long to realize that sex to a man is much different than sex to a woman. And FWB is not what I want to be now - I am in my 40s like you.

I just think you are so nice from your story - and I know you have been through a lot with losing your mom and grandparents and the divorce in the middle of that plus all your responsibilities as mom - I cannot just say "way to go" and then click on "submit". I really want to see you end up with a very nice one.

But that was a hot date!! Way to go on that one!

Keep us posted!! :-)

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 8:45am

Well that WAS a hot date.

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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 12:23pm

He sounds like a great guy and hopefully he is what he seems! I remember when I first divorced after 21 years of marriage. Talk about clueless! I learned some really painful lessons. Try to enjoy things and one rule that a friend gave me. The first 6 months are a probation period. That will give you time to see what his character is really made out of.

In the meantime, have fun and enjoy the attention!
Stephanie




Edited 6/24/2008 12:42 pm ET by texas_mom1991
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Tue, 06-24-2008 - 12:43pm

So THAT's the definition of Hanky but no Panky.