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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:00am

Do one thing that re-connects you both or brings you both closer together and share it on Monday.

This could be sharing something with him you haven't shared yet.

It could be doing something small to him that he doesn't expect from you

It could be getting out of the "RUT" of the relationship if things are a little stale

It could be initiating sex

It could be saying something to him out of the blue that makes him feel good

Now when you have done something like this, I want you to everyday, starting today, try this experiment (I heard it does wonders): Kiss him for 4 minutes on the lips. Keep your lips together for 4 minutes. Now if it seems to long, try it for 2 minutes. You might have a squirmer on you, so 2 minutes can be long for him, but see if you feel a closer connection.

Now the reason I say to try these experiments is that it reconnects the relationship, but my major reasoning is: report back and let us know if he somehow CHANGED a little towards you. Got a little closer or did something that YOU didnt' expect. Or if you both felt more connected.

Can't wait to hear this one too.

So those daring to take my challenge, sign up......

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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:20am
I'm signing up, but my guy is out of town until Sunday night so I might not be able to report back on Monday.
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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:21am
Ok, I'm nice, I'll give you until Wednesday!
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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:58am

Oh I hear ya on the kissing thing!!!

I swear, that is one sure-fire thing to get both Hiker and I riled up COMPLETELY! Just a long series of small kisses- and it almost always leads to deeper ones and then more...

If anything, Hiker and I need to stop kissing so much because it always sets off such fireworks! lol But the minute-long kiss thing... it DOES create a huge amount of intimacy even all by itself. Just be warned that it will probably lead to a WHOLE lot more!

I get my kids back today, so I'm not sure what Hiker & I will be doing this weekend. But we find time to get together, I will see what I can do!

~shrimpy

~shrimpy

"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.

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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 11:28am

Ok, I'm giving the non-daters a break, so I'll give the daters a break too.

Report back to me today in a week and let me know what you did and what the reaction was.

This should allow at least one visit with your sweeties!

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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 11:30am

What a great idea and at just the right time for me!

Mr. Nice Eyes and I are going out Saturday while the kiddies are with thier Dad.

Don't know what I'll do yet, but I'll come up with something!

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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 11:38am

I may have to get creative then since I have my kiddos until Thursday. I may have to leave work and ask him if I can pick him up for "lunch". Occasionally we actually eat lunch, but our joke is, "I want to go to lunch tomorrow - so be sure to eat a big breakfast".

Actually, I was planning to ask him to come over after I get the kids to bed on Sunday or Monday night. I've never done that before, but I miss him and I REALLY need to talk to him about something too important to discuss over the phone. You may have seen my earlier post, but I'm a point where I need to clarify things out loud (haven't had a "relationship talk" since January). There's a big disconnect between the way we've been acting and what we've actually discussed and that is making me uncomfortable - it kind of snuck up on me all of a sudden. I'm pretty sure everything is fine (we just live and enjoy our relationship rather than talk about it), but I'm still nervous as hell because if we're not on the same page then I'm afraid I may need to get myself out now. I believe that the kind of love that lasts isn't a feeling or something that you "fall into" - it's a choice. That active choice is the form of committment that I'm ready to make with him now. His actions over the past 9 months make me want to choose to love him, but until we talk I won't know if I can let myself take that risk.

So in reference to your post - we'll hopefully be doing a lot of sharing this week.

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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 11:43am
Just want to remind you all that do the unexpected! Something out of your norm: could be sharing an inner secret of yours. maybe you want to initiate a new fantasy. LOL. I'm just saying, it doesn't have to be sexual but see what kindness does. Notice his strong hands or a shirt you love on him. . Something that takes him by suprise. Just spice it up a bit and let him see their is a little bit more to you. :) Do something that makes him realize why you are such a catch. I really think the outcome will be interesting in a week.
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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 11:52am
I agree! I'm going to have to start with the kissing thing because IT ROCKS! but since that is part of our norm I need to think of something else too.
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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 2:05pm
Priscila mentioned she hasn't seen ME post anything yet, but yes, I am going to take the challenge. This will be a little strange for me, since JS and I are very much still in the friendship mode, but who knows. I think I might have a surprise up my sleeve a little here and their.
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Fri, 08-10-2007 - 3:19pm

Is the surprise up your sleeve?? or is it somewhere else????

Feeling very silly today.

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