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| Fri, 08-10-2007 - 10:00am |
Do one thing that re-connects you both or brings you both closer together and share it on Monday.
This could be sharing something with him you haven't shared yet.
It could be doing something small to him that he doesn't expect from you
It could be getting out of the "RUT" of the relationship if things are a little stale
It could be initiating sex
It could be saying something to him out of the blue that makes him feel good
Now when you have done something like this, I want you to everyday, starting today, try this experiment (I heard it does wonders): Kiss him for 4 minutes on the lips. Keep your lips together for 4 minutes. Now if it seems to long, try it for 2 minutes. You might have a squirmer on you, so 2 minutes can be long for him, but see if you feel a closer connection.
Now the reason I say to try these experiments is that it reconnects the relationship, but my major reasoning is: report back and let us know if he somehow CHANGED a little towards you. Got a little closer or did something that YOU didnt' expect. Or if you both felt more connected.
Can't wait to hear this one too.
So those daring to take my challenge, sign up......

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I'm in, I'm in!!!
I'm playing catch up tonight and will have to decide what I'll do, but sign me up!
funnyguy's not going to know what hit him!
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Well, I am not exactly in a rut yet because lifeguard and I are still new. But I might be able to think of a surprise or something fun to tell him.
You are full of great challenges, Cat! It is nice that you made these for our dating and non-dating members.
Just my luck... I've had TONS of time with Hiker all month, but now that the kids are back, I haven't seen him all weekend! It's been a good time for us though- for me and the kids to get reconnected again. :-)
Hiker & I have talked on the phone to keep in touch, but no dating since last Wednesday. So maybe sometime mid-week we can finally go out again!
~shrimpy
~shrimpy
"A man who wants something will find a way; a man who doesn't will find an excuse." ~Stephen Dolley Jr.
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reminding you all to keep focused and keep that journal...........
I've kept mine and it's getting interesting...........
Hi,
This is an interesting thread and I want to sign up!! It came on time..Just now I was thinking of doing something for my guy.
I have been seeing him for about 6 to 8 months and he is great.. He was a hidden gem and I am glad no one found him yet.. Some background..He has had almost no relationships yet ( in his 40's.. > He is one shy guy.. actually very shy and reserved and dread the idea of first dates.. We got to know just coz we work in same buiding..( WE have a more than 10 yr age ap.. I am falling for him faster than ever.. I didnt imagine dating someone in 40's when I am in my 30's and look like Iam in 20's..
So here is the recent background.. I have been deadly busy for last week and he has been helping me a lot.. even packing luch for me on few days.. ( we work in same buiding). So last night my work was done and I was tired like dead.. and I ended up in his apartment and it was like 1 . am when my work was done.. He asked me .. do you anything to drink and I go..may be some hot milk..he was like aww..I dont have any left.. I said ..no problem I will just sleep now.. But guess what ..he went out to CVS pharmacy which was in next steert to get milk at 1am in the night!.. so thats what he is sweet guy... of course I was fast asleep before he came back.
so this am,, he left for office and I decided to sleep in here for a while and then go home.. He made me great breakfast today when I woke up..may be he was still feeling that I am so tired.. Then I saw the lights in bathroom was ON.. He says he left in ON for the night as he though I may get up during middle of the night..I cant believe how he cares for me..so much.
Now shouldn't I be doing something for him after all this:-)
So now I am here in his apt and will go home after I sleep more.. I am planning to go to nearest stop and shop and get some flowers or plants and leave it his room and surprise him when he gets home.. How s that idea?
I will post o what happened next..
waiting to hear what others did!
My hot nerd is back from his trip and we finally got to talk face to face about a couple things that had been bothering me. We've done a TON of emotional sharing so far this week. As I had hoped, his words echoed his actions (which have been making me very happy for months). We are in the same "place" in our relationship at the present. He is definately committed to making our relationship continue to work as it is now. However, because he is so very honest it is also clear there is still the possibility in the future that I may want more from him than he will be willing or able to give me. Right now we are both willing to take that risk.
We did the kissing experiment yesterday after talking over lunch. My kids are with their dad tonight so I'm really ready to cook up something fun for dinner for two tonight. I better prepare something that won't burn in case we must have dessert first.
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